Feeling 101

Drew Rozell, Session Leader

Drew: Hello, everybody, this is Drew Rozell. This is Feeling 101, a new class from Attractionville. Before I get to talking, who's here? We're welcoming everyone to the class and I'm wondering why you're here, what brought you here. Anyone – why are you here?

Maya: I'm a psychologist and a coach and believe you are too. I've always appreciated that you have a unique contribution to make to the law of attraction regarding feelings and I'm wondering what your perspective is on this.

Drew: That's exactly where I'm going to be going, so thanks for that. Anyone else?

Karen: I'd like to hear you speak about what to do with certain feelings. There are feelings that aren't so great; what can I do to get them out of my life? Erase them, if you will.

Drew: All right, so what to do – especially when they don't feel good, right? I'll ask you – if I don't specifically address that question, I do have an answer to it, so remind me. Anybody else?

XXX: My sister has worked with you and she's had terrific success in getting through some difficult emotions, so I thought I'd give it a try.

Drew: Excellent! Anybody else? Anything you came to the call hoping to get a better handle on?

XXX: I'm just wanting to learn more about it.

Patricia: I was just going to say that I find that I think I get in my own way with attraction because I get very tense when I'm going for something and I'm putting in more effort than is necessary. That is something I'd like to work on – or maybe not work on.

Drew: Excellent! Maybe one more if anybody has anything?

Jane: I want to turn it into money, somehow.

Drew: Okay. Let's get rolling. This whole feeling bit – where it comes from. A lot of work that I've done with my coach, Tom Stone, in the last year has been around the core dynamics. Some of you may be familiar with them and some of you might not. I just want to mention that. Working with Tom – I've always been interested in attraction and my experience with it was that you could intellectually get attraction; most of us, when we read about it, totally resonates with us. Then we get into more and more of the information – whether it's listening to books or recordings or reading articles – and we think more about it. Hey, it sounds great to feel good all the time, and yet at the same time, what happens if you don't feel good? That's at least one concern. What I learned from attraction is that if you don't feel good, change your vibration.

Okay, that's all well and good, but I never got the sense of how, when I did really feel bad or wasn't attracting what I wanted, I didn't get too much practical information in the way of how to change that. You know, there were some things out there but not anything I could readily apply where I could see a difference. Anybody else have that experience?

XXX: Yes (multiple voices).

Drew: Yeah. So, in my own studies in attraction and coming across this work by Tom Stone, while he wasn't directly talking about attraction, when I went through one of his workshops – that now I'm certified to teach – he taught a technique that was about feeling and feeling into the energy of things. By doing that, and by doing that experientially, I saw the difference in my life. I saw I could feel something lift, and it's such a simple technique that we're going to learn it today, but it's also very powerful. To me, it became the missing link in everything I've seen in attraction. We don't utilize our capacity to feel things fully, and when we don't allow ourselves to feel things fully, we're not really in the flow of the universe. We're really operating within the laws of nature, and that's where all this attraction stuff occurs – when we're working in harmony with the universe. We wonder, ‘Why isn't it showing up?'

By practicing this technique that we're going to go through and mastering it; I'm going to offer the technique and some of you will get it and some of you won't. On the first operation here, some of you might not get it; all you might get is an awareness, but you will have the tool that you need in order to practice this more on your own. That's going to be the most important thing. I really want to build your awareness of what you feel and make a connection that probably hasn't been there before fro you. Again, the outcome of today's call is not that everybody absolutely gets it and has this phenomenal experience; I don't expect that to happen. But, if I can raise your awareness around this, then I think we've done our job in Feeling 101 here.

So, I'm going to continue going in here around the link between feeling and attraction. The idea of attraction comes from feeling what you feel; what you feel is what you get – what you put out there is what you get, right? But, at the same time, there are many, many cases where people will be saying, ‘I want this great relationship; I want this great relationship. I can picture the person – let's say it's a woman who is looking to have a man in her life – I can even picture some of his features to some degree, also how he treats me and how he makes me feel, but he's just not showing up.' And yet, you can feel really good about that person; every time you think about that person, it excites you.

Well, does anybody have an idea of why that might not show up – what might be responsible for that?

XXX: That she might have some conflicting belief or feeling.

Drew: Beautiful! Thank you! Exactly. What we're looking at here in attraction is that everything here is energy. Everything is made up of the same stuff; it can be hard to conceptualize, but it's absolutely the truth. Research tells us that if I'm looking at my computer screen – if we get down to the quantum level – that's made of energy. We get down to the atom, the molecule, the sub-atomic particles, and smaller and smaller. I perceive my hand, for example, as being a solid thing but it's not really solid – it's a pattern of energy, just like my computer screen is, just like the mountain I can see outside my window is. Everything is made of the same building block of the universe; it's just created in different patterns.

Any type of thought that you have is made up of energy too; that's all it is – a wave of energy. Any intention that we have – attraction is really saying like energy attracts like energy and if you're putting out a thought there that you really want to attract this ideal partner, there's an energy wave associated with that and that wave has a certain frequency and amplitude and it's exuded out to the universe. If that intention is clean – if what you're putting out there is really clean, meaning there are no conflicting intentions around that – then that's what comes into your experience. That's the law of the universe, and I'm sure everyone on this call has had the experience of just having an intention and having it really clear – almost like forgetting about it at that point – that exactly what you wanted showed up in your life. Everyone's had that experience at some point, right?

XXX: Yes (multiple voices).

Drew: So, the reason things don't show up sometimes when you have that flash of ‘I'd really like to attract that ideal partner' is because we have a conflicting intention. We think, for instance, if there's an old belief that a good man is hard to find, or everyone good is taken at this point, or why would I deserve a relationship like that. These are conflicting intentions and if we have one of these going on, whatever thoughts or beliefs that we have that have been stored with us for perhaps decades – again these are all just made of energy as well and have a distinct energy pattern with them – where in one breath, you're stating that clear intention that you want to attract, each one of these conflicting intentions or responses all have an energy wave as well. That energy wave is going to be in the opposite direction of that positive intention that you have, and when you combine them, they're going to cancel each other out.

So, where you used to have this really nice intention with the energy wave went up and down and up and down, now it's just a flat line because it's been cancelled out by those conflicting intentions that you have. What can you expect from the universe at that point? With not putting really any energy out, there's nothing that you're going to get back from that. Is everybody with me on that?

XXX: Yes (multiple voices).

Drew: It's kind of cool when you think of it this way and get some understanding of it. Okay, so what we're saying is that if there's a pattern of energy underneath your intention, that's what it responds to; it doesn't respond to what you say. If it did, we'd all say ‘I'm a millionaire' or whatever, and that would come into our experience. The reason it doesn't is that we have patterns of energy under there that conflict with those intentions and that's what the universe responds to – those patterns of energy that we have.

So, how does this all relate to feelings? Well, because if you look at where we are now as adults, most of us have not fully utilized our capacity to feel, and that's why I call this Feeling 101. What does it mean to really feel things fully and what's the benefit of that? Well, in everything that comes up for us and things that we feel, those have energy patterns as well and those responses to things from our environment that make us feel – there's an energy pattern associated with that as well. Depending on what that pattern is, it can very often be something that blocks us and keeps us from being able to have that nice, clear intention that we put out there.

If there is a pipeline between you and the universe, you and your desire of the way you want your life to really be, what's usually clogging up that pipe is the fact that you haven't felt things fully, and by doing that, you continue to hold on to a pattern of energy within your body that the universe is responding to and what keeps what you really desire from coming into your life.

I'll say a bit more about this and then I'll open it up a bit more. I'll give you the theory behind feeling and the fact that we don't feel things fully. Sometimes, in all of our lives, when we a little person, we don't have the capacity to feel very much. Anybody with kids, how much does it take for your child to go into overwhelm?

XXX: It doesn't take much at all.

Drew: Right, and part of the reason for that is, that as a young child, you don't have the hardware to process a lot of emotions. Those spindle cells don't develop until you're 2, 3, 4 years old and those are what process emotions. So, when you're a little person – and you can either look at a child or remember from your own experience – and someone gets upset with you or there's something in your environment that's disturbing, as a child at that point, you don't really have the capacity to feel and process all hat energy that's coming into your body and it feels completely overwhelming at that point. And, it's so overwhelming – it's the same experience you have now when you're feeling really overwhelmed, because you feel like you can't handle everything that's coming in. As a child, that was the truth; you couldn't process all the information because it was overwhelming.

So, as a child, what we all do – and we've all had this experience – is make a decision at that point, more like a survival mechanism, and blame that overwhelm on feeling and just say, ‘Well, I'm never going there again.' So what we do right then is limit our capacity to feel things; we stop right there. We train ourselves, as a child, not to feel things fully. What happens there, though, is that as we mature into adults, we actually have the capacity to feel anything and everything fully. There's nothing that you can't feel; there's nothing that you don't have the capacity to feel, but most of us operate from the place of being 3 years old again and thinking, ‘That's too intense to feel'.

So, what we do is walk around through life by not feeling things fully, and we create what these really become buttons that there's something I can do that will make you feel upset or worried or scared, and because you haven't felt this energy fully – you're still storing it in your body – and because you haven't felt this fully, you actually attract the people and the situations that recreate that for you in your life. And, by understanding – by coming to this realization that you have the capacity to feel everything fully and by going through this exercise that we're going through, it allows you to dissipate that pattern of energy from your body and that no longer becomes your point of attraction. You no longer have to have this energy block from getting what you really, really desire out of life. At that point, that's when your life opens up; that's when you no longer have to be a slave to these patterns of energy that most of us have been carrying around for decades and decades and decades.

So, let me take a breath and before we get into this further, questions, comments?

XXX: I'm wondering if we do that so we can fully feel it – or so that we can feel it again.

Drew: Why do we do that?

XXX: Yes.

Drew: Let's say I want a great relationship but my conflicting belief is that I don't really deserve a great relationship. That conflicting belief comes from somewhere way back when, where I learned what I deserved and what I didn't deserve. Because that whole idea of feeling what it would really feel like to be someone who isn't deserving of a great relationship, or feeling what that represents to me, I never felt that because it was too painful to feel as a child. Instead, I carry around this energy that says ‘I don't deserve', while my head might be saying ‘I want this great relationship'. In my body, it's the energy that I have that says ‘you don't deserve it', so guess what I'm going to attract? I'm going to attract these people who certainly are going to reflect the fact that I don't deserve a great relationship.

It's like a magnet. People will just be drawn to me because I feel like I don't deserve something. People in abusive situations can get out of that situation and move away from it, but it's very difficult to do so and then they'll find themselves in another abusive relationship where they thought it would never happen again. We're all feeling beings; we all operate on this energetic principle of what we're attracted to. Unless you clear out that energetic pattern, you're going to recreate the same thing over and over again. Any other questions?

Patricia: I think, kind of following up on what you were saying, when you do attract those people who push those buttons, that's an opportunity to feel whatever it is that we've been holding back on?

Drew: Yes, that's definitely your opportunity to feel it. We're going to attract the same things over and over and over; that's the universe's way of helping you to evolve. We're all here to evolve, right? Those situations are going to show up repeatedly, so anything that triggers an emotion in you is an opportunity to feel it fully.

XXX: And do you need to go into it right at that second?

Drew: You don't need to because it's not always going to be practical; it certainly is ideal, but you can take the awareness of it and create that space to go through it later on. In the exercise we're going to go through right now, it's going to be recalling something. okay?

XXX: Okay.

Drew: Any other questions? Everybody clear on the theory of where we're going and why feeling is important to attraction? So, why don't we go into the demonstration. We'll choose one person and go through this. As I'm going through the exercise, apply what I'm saying to your own situation. If you really want to get the most of it, my suggestion would be that you go for having the experience yourself. I'll ask for at least 3 volunteers to go through this exercise of feeling into the core of the energy with me. What would make a good candidate for this exercise would be someone who's feeling a strong emotion today; you're caught up in the feeling and you want to be able to let it go, but you're having difficulty doing this. Anybody out there?

(3 volunteers come forward)

I'm going to go with Jackie. What's going on with you? What do you feel like you're caught up in the grip of emotion with today?

Jackie: I'm in the process of starting a new business and I think my objective is to put myself out there and do some marketing around this business and I'm finding all kinds of other things to do first. I'm the only one holding myself back.

Drew: What's the emotion that you feel?

Jackie: Probably some anxiety around enrolling people in this; maybe some trepidation on my ability to do what I'm purporting to do.

Drew: What is it that you're purporting to do?

Jackie: I'm doing corporate coaching and I'm working with a lot of leaders in organizations around change. Although I know how important the work is and I know that I'm good at it, part of me in the back of my head says, ‘I don't really know if I'm qualified to do that.'

Drew: So when you think of that – your intention is to be really successful in this field, right? You can see the conflicting intention, which is ‘Am I good enough?'

Jackie: Yes, do I have enough of what it takes; am I going to be able to bring value every time – that sort of thing.

Drew: And when you think about things not going well, what do you pull up in your mind?

Jackie: I see people saying ‘I can't believe I spent this much time with you and I'm still not getting anywhere.'

Drew: Okay. Pretty powerful, huh?

Jackie: Yeah, and they're spending money and time and energy and they're expecting results.

Drew: So Jackie, where the hell are my results, right? Everybody who's listening, whatever calls up in an emotion to you, this is the place where you follow along. So, I'm saying that to you right now and it's bringing up an emotional response for you, I'm guessing?

Jackie: Yes.

Drew: When you have an emotional response like that, there's also an energy that shows up. Scan through your body; where do you find that field of energy present that's associated with that emotion?

Jackie: It's probably definitely around somewhere between my heart and my gut. It's in the 3rd chakra.

Drew: Okay. So Jackie, what I want you to do – everybody, just make the connection there that she can feel it in her body, that there's an energy present with these emotions and that's what's going to determine what you attract. Until you feel this fully, that's what's going to be your point of attraction, wherever that energy is. So Jackie, I want you to just scan through that and you'll notice, as you go through that energy, I want you to find the place where it's most intense – where the energy seems to be coming from, like the fountainhead of all that energy.

(brief period of silence)

Jackie: I actually need you to repeat that because I'm not sure it's the right answer to your question.

Drew: I just want you to feel for the energy; in that energy, there's one spot that's most intense.

Jackie: It's sort of coming up through the heart, out through the face, and out to the head. I can feel my face change color.

Drew: I just want you to find that spot in your body, the one spot, where it's most intense – of all that you feel going on, find the one spot that's most intense. It's the epicenter of all this energy that you feel.

Jackie: Okay, then I would have to say the place that I feel it the most is in my heart.

Drew: Okay, in your heart. So Jackie, the energy that you feel in your heart where it's most intense, I want you to allow all of your awareness to go down deep into the most intense part of the energy that you feel in your heart. We're not interested, people, in your thoughts or the stories about why the energy's there, we're just interested in the energy. It may be intense, but you can all feel that you have the capacity to handle this. Jackie, just allow your awareness to go deep down into the very middle of the most intense part of the energy that you feel in your heart.

(brief period of silence)

What do you notice, Jackie?

Jackie: There is – once I noticed it and paid attention to it, it seems to spread out.

Drew: Is it as intense?

Jackie: No. I put my attention on it and now it's sort of dissipating.

Drew: So, what do you feel now? It's dissipating, it might be more spread out, but you can still feel the energy in your heart?

Jackie: Actually, I feel a little calmer.

Drew: Okay. If I were to say to you right now, ‘God, I can't believe I spent all that time and money with Jackie…' – would that bring up the energy?

Jackie: Actually, at that moment, I didn't feel quite as charged by it. It was almost like a realization that I am coming with good intentions to bring value here, and you've got to meet me halfway. Some of that responsibility is yours.

Drew: Did you have any of that flash of terror that you had before?

Jackie: No.

Drew: Congratulations, Jackie!

Jackie: Thanks! (laugh)

Drew: And you can see her; she's laughing because there's been a release of energy here. You did that really, really quickly. When you feel into that energy, and then we do a check on that: Is this something you're really, really concerned about right now? You felt that energy dissipate.

Before I start talking about it more, thank you very much, Jackie. Did anybody else have the experience as we were going along of feeling the energy and feeling it break up?

Debbie: I did; I had the same feelings as she just mentioned. It's like it went numb.

Drew: Whatever you were feeling, when you think about it now, does it bring up the same charge?

Debbie: No.

Drew: Well done. Anyone else?

Carol: I'm familiar with what you're doing and for me, when I'm having a feeling of anxiety or intention, I just stop what I'm doing for a moment and look at where it came from and put some boundaries around it, and then I try to send it off.

Drew: Okay; that's different from what we're doing, and I will make the distinction. You're making boundaries around it, so then it's – I don't know if this is exactly what you're doing – like you're fencing it off, but you're still going to have that pattern of energy the next time unless you feel into the core of it.

Carol: Yeah, I guess I'm realizing that it – it's just one small little issue at the end of the day, and then I tell myself that it's not important, do some breathing, and let it go.

Drew: Let me make a distinction about this because it's an important one – a distinction between what I heard you say and this method. If you're going into your thoughts, what that does is keep that pattern of energy – whatever caused you to be anxious – to be triggered again. Maybe not that day, but it'll come up somewhere. What we're talking about here is the actual antithesis of thinking. We're not even interested in what you think a lot of the time, it's that when you have an emotional response to something – when you feel anxious – that response calls up an energy in your body. If everybody makes that connection today, that's a huge connection to make.

When you feel worried, anxious, sad – when there's any emotional response, it calls up an energy in your body. We don't even know why it's there; it may be interesting to your brain to figure out why, but it's not important to this process at all. In fact, when you're feeling down into the energy you can't think about the story at the same time. What we really want to focus on here is just the feeling, the energy. When we put our energy there, that's when we can really eliminate it and break it off. It's an experiential process, not an intellectual one. Thanks for helping me make that point.

Pat: I've actually been practicing this exercise for a while now, and this is what's happening. The feelings still resonate – maybe in a week or two, it'll come back and I'll start doing the exercise and it's almost like I know what's supposed to happen and it gets to the point where I'm wondering if the exercise is working. I'm just curious if you've experienced that.

Drew: Are you asking is it working or am I fooling myself or both?

Pat: Probably both.

Drew: There's a big distinction between thinking and knowing, and there's a tendency for people – because this exercise is so powerful and yet so easy – that if you start to practice it and you start to master it and clear out those energy blocks, you'll find that your life becomes a lot easier because you're not upset all the time and things will start to come into your life. It's really amazing stuff! It's such a simple exercise, though, that there's a tendency for us to think, ‘It can't be that easy' and that's where a lot of that comes from.

Now, there's another point to be made here too. We went through this in this moment – Jackie had this feeling of not being good enough and what if people were to say, ‘Where are the results?' – that's probably showing up in other areas of her life as well, and just because she's feeling into it now doesn't mean it's not going to come up again. It might come up in a different form, or maybe the exact same thing needs to be felt through more as well. It's not a quick fix like anything else in life; life is about evolving and the more of this stuff that we call up and feel through, you're going to feel this sense of lightness and relief and release from the energy leaving your body, but this is a practice. You're also going to get one step closer to the deeper layer of stuff that you haven't felt through. It becomes a practice.

If you're ever wondering, ‘Did that actually work?', go back to whatever was upsetting you – that's why at the end of the demonstration with Jackie, I said, ‘In this moment, how do you feel about that? Is that a concern?' She said, ‘No, that's not present right now.' If you get to the point where you don't feel any energy in your body, then it worked; you did what you came for. Does that answer your question?

Pat: It does. There are a couple of issues that I've been working on and it seems like it might go away for a little while, but it's repetitive. Can it still take up to a year to clear our some resistance there?

Drew: It can be a lifetime to work through it, but my sense is – from hearing you talk about it – that you really haven't gotten into the core of what you need to feel through.

Pat: Okay.

Drew: There's probably – you're probably hitting the issues that are around the core issues, and when you hit that, my sense is that you would clear out a lot more of this.

Pat: Okay, thank you for that.

Drew: Any other questions or comments?

Barb: I have a question. I have a client who is dealing with an ex-husband who's really abusive and is facing court proceedings and so on, and understandably, she's very anxious about this. Would this be effective to use with her?

Drew: I would think so. As long as she's got that pattern of anxiety, she's going to attract the things that press that button. Obviously, you'd want to feel comfortable in doing this exercise with somebody because questions do come up. I'll just make this general point; if you notice there's an energy in your body – and I'm going to make the assumption that everybody had that experience – what you have to make sure of is that you go right to the very center of your energy. If you think, ‘I can't do this' it's because you're not allowing yourself to go right to the very middle of this intense energy. It's like touching a hot stove and pulling away. A lot of times people can believe it would be too intense to feel the energy, but we all have that innate capacity to do it.

For me, this is an exercise that has literally changed the way I live and changed the way I look at the world and changed my practice. I personally would recommend it to anybody, because the more you feel – just like Jackie was talking about, the energy left her body and there's no longer that block. That's what this is all about. I hope that answers your question, Barb.

Helen: Do you think that this technique can get to things that are at the sub-conscious?

Drew: Yes. A lot of things that happen – when we made this decision not to feel, they happened before we really understood what was going on or before we even had language. That's why I said it's not important if there's a story. A lot of times, there's something that's just holding us back; we don't know what it is, but we know it's there. I can ask them, ‘What's that about?' and they have no idea. At that point, it's more about what does that feel like to you. What energy comes up. When you find the issue with yourself or a client, it might take some digging around to find out what that really is, but you'll know when you get it – for both you and your client; you'll just feel it.

Helen: Thanks.

Julian: Do these issues come up in different parts of your body?

Drew: Great question! Everybody feels things in different places. I tend to feel things in my stomach; that's just where I feel things pretty consistently there. Having done this with hundreds of people, just expect it to come from anywhere. Different things you can feel in different places. When you're feeling into the energy – let's say it's in your stomach and it's really intense, and you start feeling into it and all of a sudden, it goes into your chest. The energy, many times, because it's been coated in layers in your body, as you feel deeply into the feeling, it may move. The important thing to remember is to allow yourself to go wherever the energy is most intense and follow it around. Obviously, the goal – or the wonderful outcome when you do this – is that you'll notice this energy starts to leave. Great question! You'll feel things in different parts of your body, but also notice as you feel into those feelings there's an excellent chance that it may move around within your own body and you have to stay present, wherever that energy goes.

Julian: Any idea why focusing on that energy makes it move around?

Drew: Actually, you're actually feeling it. We're all given this capacity to feel and we don't use it. When we allow ourselves to feel it, you still feel it but it goes in you and out of you. If you're not actually feeling it, that pattern of energy stays within your body. I'm pretty sure when you actually feel something it moves through your body and it's released at heat; I'm going to do some more research on this.

I do think we covered a lot of ground here on the call. I hope everybody got the basics here and got what you came for. This may be just the beginning. I hope this was an experience where you got what you expected.

XXX: Yes (multiple voices)

(recording ends here)