Who's Driving the Limo

Who's Driving the Limo: The Respective Roles of Ego and Intention in the Attraction Process

Drew Rozell, Session Leader

Drew: Welcome everybody; this is Drew Rozell and this is the Attractionville call on ‘Who's Driving the Limo? The Respective Roles of Ego and Intention'. I was just saying that what gave me the idea for the call was a recent talk that I did. In that talk, just being on stage and talking about the material I was presenting, I noticed that things that were coming out of my mouth, I didn't plan for them. I didn't know where the information was coming from. A lot of times when I'm talking on stage, concepts and stories come to come to me in that moment. In a way, it didn't seem like it was me doing it.

As I began to ponder this, I thought it would be something interesting to write about; maybe I'm not the one who's really in charge. How different that is from the cultural and societal view that we're the doers and creators of everything. I just began to have my antenna up for other kinds of information that would support this – that rather than being the doer of everything, we're the receiver. I then came across an article on the Beatles and how they had written a song and immediately knew it was going to be a hit – they could sense that – and it wasn't that they'd sat down and figured out how to write a hit song. It was just the whole tone of describing the story was very humble; they knew they weren't the ones actually doing it – they knew they were the receiver of that information. To me, that seemed to be collaborating evidence.

Then, I remembered the concept of simultaneous discovery. This is about the phenomenon where people working independently in different parts of the world can come up with the same concept or idea. In the history of inventions, that seems to come up a lot. Perhaps you've had that idea, where you come up with a cool idea for an invention and you see it on TV later that week. A famous example – if you look at Sir Isaac Newton and a German mathematician, they both ‘discovered' calculus at the same time. This is something they both came to understand and were able to translate at the same time. This really supports the idea that there's a inter-connection between all of us.

We're all in this human form and have this perception of being very separate. Part of that is our egos and how we come to identify ourselves. In this human experience, we identify ourselves as individuals and men and women, and maybe what we look like and what we do for a living, and maybe how much money we have – that's all our ego; the things that really make us seem, on the surface, for us to be separate from one another. If you get down to the energetic level, what really comes to all of us is the same energy, and if you get to the quantum level, we're all made of the same stuff. As we're all made of the same stuff, we're really all made of the same mind.

I was reading last night about the M-fields; they're like energy fields for humans and we're all tied into the same one. For example, no one could break the 4-minute mile; man just couldn't do that. But, when Roger Bannister did that, he created a whole M-field of human potential, and once he'd crossed that M-field – because we're all interconnected in that way – all of a sudden more humans could do that. By changing that field and having us all be connected, it becomes possible for a lot of people.

The idea I was driving at with the whole intention and ego thing, the biggest thing that I can see is that we get in our own way. We're not really good at allowing. Part of that reason is that we step into the role of the doer; we step into the role of ‘I'm an individual and my name is Drew and…' If I'm going to define myself that way and put myself in the middle of the process, I'm bringing with me all my conditioning and all the blocks that I have and really get me what I want. The further we can get away from our egos, the better off we'll be. The other part of this that comes up is the intention part. When I first created AttractionVille, I looked at intention as something that I did, like, I, Drew will create an intention and I will make it happen.

That goes directly in line with everything I was taught and everything I learned from this culture. From a very ego-centric view, it was up to me to fulfill these things that I called intentions that I had. as I've grown and been exposed to more material and taken different classes and learned more things, my role on the doer and intention has changed a lot. My intention to have this class has been to attract more of this information. I was recently on a ski trip and took a day off from skiing and turned on the television. On the television was Wayne Dyer and he was doing his public special on the power of intention. I thought, ‘How perfect is this! I can watch it again!' In talking about the power of intention, he was translating this material and doing a very good job of it.

What he was saying was that we need to shift our intention from something we want to do, and really look at intention as a field of energy – and really, a universal field of energy. The energy of intention that's responsible for creating everything in the universe. In a sense, that's really what intention is; it's not really coming from you, per se. If someone's writing a book, it's actually coming from the field of intention, it's moving and flowing through somebody, but it's not actually that person that's doing it. All of a sudden, then, we take our egos out of the equation. The question, then, and what's really important in all of this – it's not a question of whether you're connected to the source energy or that field of intention because we all are – how clean is that link between you and that source of energy? How closely related are you to that? That's what we'll begin to talk about a little bit more.

I wanted to give you the background of where I see this going and talk about what an intention really is so we minimize the importance of the ego. Now, I'll just open it up to questions, observations, or whatever right now.

Teresa: No question, but I've certainly had the same kind of experience you've talked about where I don't know why something is coming out of my mouth – where it came from.

Drew: I'm just curious; for anybody on the call, in terms of what got you here – other than I'm going to check out this class, was there something intriguing about it and what you do think about not being the doer? I'm curious where people sit with this whole idea of the topic.

XXX: I'm fully in agreement with the statement that I'm not the doer, but a question that comes up among my clients is ‘If I'm not the doer and not doing anything, then what do I do?'

Drew: And what's your answer?

XXX: I just tell them to connect back to the source, and spend some time in their world and thinking about ‘Wouldn't it be nice if….?'

Drew: When we have to do it all, when we see ourselves as the doer, then we're responsible for everything. In that moment when we're identifying with our ego, we're saying that it's just me here. We're cutting ourselves off from everybody else, and we're cutting that link between us and the universe. In thinking that it's up to us to do everything, the problem that's associated with that is that we try to force an outcome, which means we're really attached to the outcome. If we think we're responsible for making it look that way, if it doesn't turn out that way, then that's a problem. Just like cool things have shown up in my life, they've shown up in ways I could never have imagined or planned for. If I'm going to be really rigid and say, ‘It's up to me to do this' and if I'm off track anywhere, then I'm going to have problems throughout my whole life because I'm trying to force something to happen.

Laurie: I think this is a phenomenal concept, and this is something I've been struggling with myself. My question has been how do I get out of my own way; I think this call is exactly for me.

Drew: When you said your ego can get in the way, where does that happen?

Laurie: When I think that it's something that I have to do and I have to have an intention, rather than letting yourself be guided. I think there's a fine line between intentions and letting yourself be guided.

Drew: One thing that's changed for me is that when I first got into this I saw a lot of material – I don't know how to describe it, but it seemed to be more goal-oriented. I would find myself sitting there thinking, ‘Well, what do I really want?' It was my ego thinking, ‘Well, somebody else thinks this is important so I'll put that down'. I was really in this sinking place around my intentions. And, none of that stuff came to be, by the way. I'm now really different in how I go about it. I never set down goals, but I'll notice what I resonate with. I'll notice that I'm aware of where I perk up in life; to me, that's a message that I'm connected to that field of intention and it's vibrating in a very similar way. It's like when you get a flash or a preview. I've noticed that it happened with my home. It was like a flash or preview of my home – it was going to be an open space; much different than I was in before.

I just knew all of a sudden that I resonated with an home that has a high ceiling and very open space and I would notice that in houses that I would drive by. Just noticing that led me in that direction and down that path, and that's what got created. After I got that flash – just like we all have flashes; it's like a preview of what's to come. If we just get out of our own way, if we reduce that role of ego thinking we have to be the doer, it gets created around us. Any time we're trying to force the outcome and think that we have to be the doer – to control it and really smother – then we don't get to see the movie very often.

Teresa: When you're talking about that flash or preview, to me that's inspiration. When the person was talking earlier about her clients waiting for this energy and not doing, for myself when I'm able to wait what ends up happening that I can't not do. My challenge is continuing to wait on the other areas that haven't reached that point yet, particularly when I have a deadline or some kind of calendar event.

Drew: Well, let me expand on this point that you made. The point that you made that was also on my agenda was this whole idea of waiting. Waiting is such an integral part of the concepts that we're talking about today. Waiting for something to happen requires trust or faith that the universe is really a benevolent place. Because we grow up in a culture that says, ‘What are you waiting for?' – the whole culture is so – and it's nobody's fault; my guess is that everyone on this call was conditioned in the same way – is that you are your body, you are your sense of drive, you are to go out and just do it, to just make it happen. To wait – and I use this example in one of my newsletters as well – I had my intention of what the house was. I didn't know exactly what it was going to look like, but the house that was presented to me right before this one – in a pretty tight housing market – was the best I had ever seen, and it was pretty good. I could say that it fit just about all the criteria I had.

If I had acted from that place – it was a nice house, but it's nothing like this one that made my soul really light up. What it required me to do in that moment was to let go of my ego and really wait – and wait when I really didn't think I had the time. But waiting and allowing those things to come to us is one of the really critical skills; I'm certainly still developing it as well, but the more practice you get, the better. It's okay for us to actually just wait for it to show up. It's really 180 degrees counter to the conditioning that most of us are exposed to. This is a good time to jump in if you have a question or comment.

XXX: So in the process of waiting, if you have doubts in that process, is that going to mess with your intention?

Drew: Sure it is.

XXX: So how do you go about waiting?

Drew: What you have to find out is what those doubts are about. Those doubts are why people don't wait, thinking if I wait, opportunity will pass me by. Or, if I wait, this is insane; I need to be doing something to make it happen. Just going by the idea that we're all on the same energy and we're just a vibrating instrument, those beliefs or those doubts are some of those corroding elements that keep us from connecting to that source. Number one, and what I certainly hope AttractionVille stands for, is raising your awareness – the idea that those thoughts that you have, they have energy and they're something that's getting in the way of that connection. Until you're aware of that energy and number two, recognize where that energy is, and number three, eliminate that energy so there aren't any doubts or concerns where you can just wait…and be neutral about waiting – that's going to be a lot more difficult and you're getting in the way of that intention and the way it would manifest.

XXX: Very helpful; thank you.

Drew: I'll say for those people who are kind of new to AttractionVille, the way to eliminate some of that energy is covered in a couple of classes – Why isn't it showing up?, and the technique is something I learned from Tom Stone and that is based on feeling into the core of the energy of the feeling. This is basically for any conflicting intentions we have. This is where I respond to what you guys have. If you don't have anything, that's fine too.

XXX: This is a great reminder – this is helping me get back on track. Just last night in the middle of the night, I woke up worrying about a situation. I was physically doing exercises this morning to change that energy.

XXX: I too have the exact same thing going on; I was thinking that there should be something I could do, and I couldn't think of what it might be. This hit me right on, Drew.

Drew: And the places to solve our problems are never at the ego level – in other words, you're never going to figure out in your mind. Until you get a grasp on the energy within your body, things won't start to change for you. An analogy that comes to mind is a computer virus; if you're in a place where you have doubts, fears, or worries about something, that certainly is affecting your energy. Now, maybe you can remember why you have those doubts and understand where that came from. You can get a computer virus and you can understand it – maybe you even know the name, and maybe you can even open it up and look at the code, but it's still going to screw up your files. It won't change the situation until you can get rid of that energy. It's the same with conflicting intentions; we have to get out of the way, from the standpoint of our egos.

Eric: How do you clearly know if you're in your way or if you're not, and if you're just supposed to wait longer?

Drew: What do you think?

Eric: I don't know because sometimes I don't know if I'm in my own way or I need to clear out something else. How do you tell if your energy is clean?

Drew: If you can think of whatever was concerning you – anytime we have anything we experience as a problem, that makes us react. If you find yourself reacting – meaning you're upset, you're worried, you're angry, or you're anxious; anything that's not a state of equilibrium, there's something to be cleared out in there. Waiting is usually – what makes it so difficult for all of us is because it makes us uncomfortable. We were taught or brought up to do something, but until you can get to the place where you're all right with waiting, the neutral doesn't bring up a charge. Until you're in the place where there's not a charge, you're showing up in a way that's corroding that link between you and the field of intention. Does that address your question?

Eric: Yeah, I think so.

Drew: If you have an attachment to how it's supposed to come out, then you are inserting yourself as the doer, the one who's got to control and manipulate how that outcome comes into being.

Eric: I hear that. A lot of times, different things are inserted by other people but I feel responsible for whatever has to happen.

Drew: The whole idea that you have deadlines – you're talking about the idea that something is necessary, and in your world, they may be. The only reason they are is that they're something you resonate with. If you have this going on within you, you're going to be attracted to things that give you responsibility, like a deadline. Until you get to a place to where you can eliminate that responsibility energy, you're still probably going to be attracted to the people and the situations that attract those deadlines. That's pretty interesting, isn't it?

I'll use this as an example. If you talk to people, they will argue until they're blue in the face about that this is the way it has to be – the reality of the situation. Well, the reality is that you're the one who's inserting that – we all are – because that's what we're resonating with. The more you argue – people have put themselves in the role of the doer, even though they don't want to, even though it doesn't make them happy.

Leah: I definitely have experience being in the flow of things. I have the feeling that these words are coming out of my mouth, but it had nothing to do with me. I have some signals for myself when I'm not allowing myself to be in that place, and one of them is that I feel that I have to do something. That makes me step back and look at the situation. I also see it show up a lot in relationships with other people. If I'm in a relationship with someone and I feel I need to do something to make the relationship better, that's usually when it's not in touch with my intentions or desires at all. The relationships that are the best are the ones where I don't have to do anything.

That's a great example. we all have those people in our life that we can just be with, and really that's just a reflection of part of how you relate to yourself, so you're allowing yourself to just be in that place – not having to do anything or make anything happen. A lot of times we insert our ego into the relationship to make that person like us. What's underneath that is stuff that corrodes the link between us and them. Thanks for that – that's a really good example.

XXX: How do you set forth an intention and have the idea in your heart and your mind and also stay disconnected from the outcome?

Drew: It's not necessarily disconnected; you can be connected to it, but you're not attached to it. The first part of your question was about – was it about setting an intention?

XXX: Yes.

Drew: Well, I'll tell you – I can't say how to do it, but I'll give you what I do. I can't say this is the truth because I don't know the truth. My experience is that I notice my intentions; I notice what I resonate with. I notice what gets me excited, and that's much different than what I was taught before. That's very different than just noticing what I resonate with. When I feel that energy, that's my intention; that's my connection there. Does that part make sense? The reason I wanted to do this class is that it's very different where I am now than I was when I began.

Teresa: Let me share what Drew has told me before. The idea is to write down how those intentions would make me feel – not the specific thing I want, but how that would make me feel. That has been so key for me. I can now tell if it's just raising my energy or if it's not, and if it's not, I know I need a little work in that area. I don't know if that makes it a little easier, but it helped me.

Drew: Thanks for that. I used to do this all the time – I would ask people what's your intention of what you want, and people would often say they wanted a lot of money. But, if you ask that person why they want a lot of money, you would often get a very different answer. I would get that they wanted to give that money away, that they wanted to feel free, or something else. Instead of focusing on the money – having that be the intention – it's really about how you want to feel; what would the money do for you? What is the energy that's represented to you in that money? Is that peace, is that being free from worries or concerns about money, and have that be the intention? Focus your energy on that, rather than on the artificial thing.

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