Why Isn't It Showing Up?

Drew Rozell, Session Leader

Drew: welcome everybody, to the Attractionville forum on ‘Why Isn't it Showing Up?'. I've subtitled it, ‘How to get out of your own way immediately'. To begin with, I've gone through a course description here, and I think we're going to hit all those topics, but I'm curious to hear what you want to get out of the call and why you're here.

Bob: Obviously, since I'm always looking for new ways to provide information for people on getting past the sticking point. I'm really on the call to hear what you have to say.

Drew: Do you get a lot of that? Bob has a great program, for your information, related to attraction. The folks that are in your community, is that a common question? You know, ‘I'm doing all this stuff; why isn't it showing up?'

Bob: Yeah. A lot of people want it right away, and think because they have all this stuff in front of them, it's just automatically going to show up. The real question is, ‘How do I get better?' To answer your question, it's very common for people to ask me that, and then say, ‘I've been at this for a month.' Well, a month is a pretty short amount of time.

Drew: Thank you for that. I think we're going to address this head on. Who else?

XXX: I'm a member of Attractionville, of course, and like learning about this. I'm curious to hear how I can sharpen this in my life. If things are going well, you know you hate to share that with others.

Drew: Are you saying you hate to share your good stuff with others?

XXX: Yes, sometimes because it's harder, once you get out, to get back in.

Drew: That's true, it is hard. That's why we have communities like this so you can get together with like-minded folks.

XXX: Is there a timeframe associated with any of this – getting this to show up in your life?

Drew: I've never come across a specific time frame; to me that always becomes – if I'm looking at my watch and saying, ‘When's it going to show up?' the underlying thing that I'm putting out there is, ‘I doubt this is going to show up.' The time part, for me personally, there'll be something I desire, I just set an intention about it, and then I just let it go. When it does show up, it's almost a surprise because I've almost forgotten about it.

Bob: Yeah, one of the things people talk about is that you put it out there and don't care whether it comes back or not. Not caring whether it comes is not the same thing as not wanting it to. Once you really understand the laws of attraction, you won't care whether it's coming or when because you'll know it is coming.

Drew: It's a certainly.

Bob: Yes. You won't look at your watch; you just know it's going to occur. It's that level of certainty that puts you in that vibrational state.

Drew: Excellent, Bob! Anyone else?

XXX: I want to know what to do when you don't feel good.

Drew: Yeah, sometimes you just don't feel good, and you're in this place. The reason I'm bringing this forum to the forefront is that it's bringing a lot of issues that I've seen come to me personally, and things that have come to people I've been around in the last year. At certain points in the model, it's difficult for people to feel good when they don't feel good, and sometimes they're not manifesting what they desire – they're manifesting the direct opposite. What I do, just in my own life, is that I read a whole lot of stuff, including things on attraction. The reason I'm telling you this is that all the information I bring in jives with attraction – whether it's the frontiers of science, or finances, or whatever. I wanted to come to you today and share what I've learned – in my short time in working with it, I think it's the missing link in the whole process.

Let me bring this question up again. In the attraction model – and we talk about it as a 3-step model: (1) ask for what you want; (2) it is given; and (3) allow it to come into your experience. It seems that the biggest hurdle is in the allowing; in your experience, why is that?

Bob: I can certainly share something there. There's a whole thing I did on this, and it comes down to an issue of deserving. We have an idea that we've earned something or deserve it because we've earned it. To the extent that you understand that you deserve something, you allow it to come to you. The small things are easier for you to feel that you deserve – $5 versus $1 million, for example. I've always called that feeling of deserving ‘the governor'. That's definitely one thing – that we have a problem of allowing.

XXX: Is that because someone doesn't have self-confidence.

Not necessarily; I think there's some sort of threshold that people get to. Even people get excited about wanting really big stuff, when it comes down to it, they haven't allowed it to BE.

Thanks so much for that. part of that deserving is the idea that there's a limit, a finite amount in the universe of abundance; the idea that if I'm going to take all this, then isn't that selfish?

Bob: Yeah, I've definitely heard that.

Drew: Yeah, you hear that a lot. Just to think that by you having exactly what you desire, you're taking away from somebody else. That's just a belief that we've created, and it's just a story, but that becomes an emotion within us. We talk about abundance and manifesting and attracting all that you desire, and on one hand, that's great and exciting, but on the other hand, it's unnerving.

XXX: You talk about this example – if I win, somebody else uses – but then the example you talk about is giving what you have and it'll come back. I think that can apply to a variety of wants or desires.

XXX: I think if you love one person, you can love another person – you cannot be selective in love.

Drew: Boy, this would be a whole different topic… I've just begun to think about this a lot – the idea of love. The only love that really exists is self-love. If you're in love with yourself, it just promotes that kind of unconditional love towards everything else around you as well.

Bob: If you really want to get your mind bending around this, think about someone that you think, ‘Boy, it would be really hard to love that person.' And you also have to own the fact that you've allowed those people into your experience. The fact that they're in your experience is a reflection of you; it defines who you are, what you're thinking, and your predominant vibration. When you do find yourself struggling to love someone, you have to understand that it's originating inside of you, and it's an issue of self-love. If you're struggling with expressing yourself fully or believing who you truly are, you're going to attract all kinds of people. Sorry for going off on a tangent.

Drew: That was great, Bob; you didn't go off on a tangent – that's where I'm going with this. If we ask for what we desire, and then the universe is creating that for us, and then we need to allow that into our experience, for most of us, we've got something gunking up the works. Probably in there somewhere what shows up does not reflect our desires, and a lot of that is because we don't allow things – because of our experiences, our beliefs, and our emotions. These reactions, it's my contention, that energy that's called up in our body, put up that little force-field that says, ‘I don't want this' or ‘I don't deserve this'. This idea of reaction, of – whenever we feel like a button has been pushed, I want you to think of that as a gift. It's giving you the key that you're going to need to really clear out this pipe between you and the universe. I know I'm going out there, but are you with me?

XXX: Yes (multiple voices)

Drew: I would react – I would think I was sensitive – but I was really reacting to situations in life that were calling up this undesirable energy and I didn't know how to get rid of it, and it would just say there. I've heard of a lot of different techniques for changing this, and they work to varying degrees. In attraction, I've used this term – we talk about emotion and wanting emotion behind that which you desire. In terms of semantics, how I'm looking at emotion is different now. Emotion is buried somewhere in your past; when you feel emotion, it's coming from some sort of mental picture or experience that you have. When these emotions come over us, it locks us up; that's what stops us.

XXX: Let's say I'm in a job, and I'm reacting to another person's behavior….

Drew: When you think of this other job – is this a real situation? When you think of that, how do you feel?

XXX: I would like that; I would be very excited if I get that. I'm very excited about the prospect of being there.

Drew: What I would be looking for in your situation is when you're thinking about this job, what are the places you tend to react or what tends to bring up a bit of doubt? Whatever those things would be.

XXX: The thing that comes up for me is that even though I think I'm ready for this, I might not have all the experience that they need for that kind of position.

Drew: Great! And when you get into that place -?

XXX: I get a little scared, and start thinking that maybe I shouldn't even be thinking about it.

Drew: That's it right there; that energy isn't congruent with how you feel about the job. You can have those intentions, but if you have that energy somewhere in your body, that's what the universe responds to – that energy in your body. What you have underneath that conflicting intention is an emotion that says why this can't happen or why you don't think you deserve it or whatever.

I just want to mention this training that I went through; it's called the ‘Absence of You' training, and it's done by CoachVille. It was done by Tom Stone. The idea is getting yourself out of your own way – how do you transcend yourself, your problems, and all the superficial stuff we bring to the table. Through this training – I'm going to offer everybody a real simple technique here. The idea is that – I'm going to go through the whole idea. Emotion and the experiences we bring to any situation, that's what's getting in the way.

I'll give you the theory behind it. The theory is that when you're a child, if you look at your capacity to feel things as a little person, you don't have a tremendous capacity to feel. It's easy for a child to get overwhelmed. If a parent yells at you, think of that experience; that's really confusing, and you don't have the capacity to handle all that energy. Then, we make the association as children that we don't have the capacity to feel everything. Somewhere in there, the child – either consciously or unconsciously – makes the decision that they're just not going to feel that. With me so far?

XXX: So, we made that decision.

XXX: But how could a kid know that they're not going to be able to feel that?

Drew: I think it's an unconscious decision; a simple association that if this happens, and I go to this place, it hurts so bad. Like touching a hot stove. Then, because we don't have the capacity to feel, we make the decision not to feel, and we carry this with us through our adulthood, this idea that we don't have the capacity to feel everything. All of us feel overwhelmed from time to time, and it doesn't feel very good, does it? We've never really outgrown that feeling, and so we shut ourselves down.

When somebody, some thing, or some situation pushes your button, it's stimulating this part in you that you can't go to the full place, and you can't really go there. What we do in that reactive place is that we hold that energy within us, and it just kind of bounces around. It's got us in the place that we really don't feel good, and that's the energy the universe is picking up on. But, we've become so sensitized to carrying this energy around that we really don't notice it; we think it's just something we carry around us. To make what we want show up on a consistent basis, we have to clear out all this energy.

I 'm going to give you an example right here, but I need someone who's got an issue that they'd be willing to share, something that feels like they're in the grip of an emotion.

XXX: One of the things I work on is about attraction; then I have this thing that said that if I have a wrong thought, it's negating everything. It's like the instant fear emotion like ‘Oh no, I'm having the wrong thought.'

Drew: Would you go through this exercise with me?

XXX: Sure.

Drew: I suggest that as we go through this, you go through this for yourself – think of a situation you're under that's very emotional for you, that brings up a charge somewhere. Anytime you're in the grips of emotion, you're in the place where you're not working the law of attraction the way you'd like to. Okay, I'm going to start now.

XXX: Well, the issue that comes up is that I'm spending time working on being positive, working on having good vibrations, and just having those vibrations to bring what I want there. The tapes that I listen to are saying that every thought I have has a reaction, and that immediately brings up the feeling of fear. Then, I'm not choosing my reaction, I'm having the fear reaction.

Drew: Okay, so right now, when you hear those tapes and it triggers that fear within you, can you feel that fear right now?

XXX: Okay.

Drew: So with anything we have this emotional reaction to, there's an energy to it. Can you feel where this energy of emotion is in your body?

XXX: Yeah, it feels like it's in your chest.

Drew: For most folks, it feels like it's in the main body cavity. Does that energy have a shape?

XXX: It feels like a really tight ball, like a fist.

Drew: So you can feel that, right? What I'd like you to do is to allow yourself to feel into the most intense part of that energy – can you do that? I'm asking you to feel the white-hot center of that little ball, of that feeling.

XXX: Now it's in my stomach.

Drew: Okay, that's all right. Wherever that energy is, we're asking you to go to the center place of that energy. Go to the most intense spot, and focus on drilling down to the center. Just notice what's there.

(brief moment of silence)

XXX: Okay, I'm just feeling a kind of pain.

Drew: So there's a physical thing?

XXX: It's more of a discomfort.

Drew: Okay, we're not looking for an insight; we're just asking you to feel that pain. You may think that you can't feel things completely, that you're going into overwhelm, but it's not true. You can feel things completely; you have the capacity. Just know that you can experience it. Can you find the center of the energy now?

XXX: Yes.

Drew: Okay, let's just drill down to the very middle of that energy and feel what's there.

(brief moment of silence)

XXX: I can feel it there, and it also feels like it's radiating like shockwaves out from the center of it.

Drew: Is it as intense as it was?

XXX: No.

Drew: Does it feel like it's breaking up at all?

XXX: Yes.

Drew: Is there still a center to it?

XXX: It doesn't feel like the same; it's like it's there, but not that there's a center.

Drew: Is there one place that is the most intense?

XXX: I think it's kind of finishing breaking up.

Drew: Beautiful! Does it feel like that tight ball that was there when we started?

XXX: No, now it's gone.

Drew: Congratulations! Thank you for being brave enough to be part of this exercise. What she just did was get rid of that energy that's blocking the pipe. For her, that's a fear energy. We all have these energies that come up in us; that's just part of our conditioning, and it no longer needs to be there. You get rid of this energy by experiencing it, and by knowing that you have the capacity to feel whatever comes into your experience and feel it fully. Did anybody else experience the energy breaking up for them?

XXX: I sure did.

Drew; Feel better?

XXX: Yeah, it's amazing that it was almost the same experience for me as well. It was amazing!

Drew: And the greatest news is that you have the capacity to feel anything that comes into your existence, and once you do, you're no longer under the grip of that emotion, and from an attraction standpoint, you're no longer vibrating from that level – it's just gone. What questions do you have? Comments?

XXX: Can I offer what I'm taking as a summary of this? I think our bodies are conditioned to automatically put a judgment or story on everything that we feel. By using this method, we can just let it go and let it break up.

Drew: And do you realize there was nothing to it to begin with?

XXX: Yes.

Drew: You got it! my suggestion with this is that whenever you find yourself reacting to something, allow yourself to notice where that energy is called up in your body, go to the white-hot center, and watch it break up.

XXX: I like to think of it as being present in the now with it.

Drew: Yes. If you go into this and you find, ‘I can't quite go there' or ‘I can't quite access it', you're still in the story place and you're still trying to access this. You need to go into the feeling place and just feel it. By implementing and taking advantage of your natural capacity, it'll change your life. For me, I think that this energy very often is what keeps us from manifesting.

XXX: It seems to me that this is an example of illusion versus reality.

Drew: Can you say more about that?

XXX: The illusion of what we make up – what our limits are, and so on. This is just about getting to the core of the feeling and just eliminate it.

Drew: We mistake ourselves for the emotion and mistake ourselves for the story, but once you put your attention on it, you just feel a lot lighter. It's just gone.

XXX: Suppose I'm reacting to someone and they're really pushing my buttons and if I address it, will it help me think of what to do?

Drew: You won't have to think about it because it just won't be there. You will have disconnected that button.

XXX: There's actually a book on this called Emotional Awareness.

Drew: Aha!

XXX: And it really goes into how we react; let's say we always get angry, that anger is how we don't feel into the pain of our emotions – we're just trying not to feel the real emotion.

Drew: And what do we attract then? We attract the exact opposite of what we want.

XXX: Yeah, I'm really excited that I'm getting this link between that book and attraction; this is really cool!

Drew: Yeah, that's what it was for me. Nobody was on the stage talking about attraction, but that's what it did for me as well. I got this light bulb coming on, and for me, it was the missing link. By going into the core of what doesn't feel good and experiencing that energy, it's just done.

Bob: from that point, I also think, ‘Is this going to matter 12 months from now?' in understanding what the perceived significance of the issue is. Most of the time the answer is ‘no', and it helps to process that emotion.

Drew: That makes rational sense, and I do that as well, on occasion. I think the rational part of my brain is what gets me in trouble most of the time. If I pay attention to my body, then I feel like I feel like I have the key to finding that really peaceful kind of existence. When that energy is in your body and you feel it, you don't even have to know why it's there – we're just concerned with eliminating it from your body. If you can get to that place where you pay attention to your body and what it's telling you, and then go through that exercise and obliterate it, it will change your life.

Did you get what you wanted from this course?

XXX: Yes, and more.

XXX: Yes (multiple voices)

Bob: I think that's a great technique. Anything you can do to help yourself become unstuck is great. I think it's really valuable, anything you can do to give people that lightness. If you don't get past that emotion, you'll be stuck, no matter how many lists you make. Particularly if your vision includes the people who are pushing your buttons in some way, there's a complete lack of congruence.

Drew: Yes, it doesn't come from going around, it comes from going in. I'll leave everybody with the thought of those buttons. Those buttons are a gift to you to learn. Notice where they come up in your body, then go get after it until it's gone. Our time is up; thanks so much for being part of this call. Take care, everybody