Power of Attraction 1

Power of Attraction Series

Drew Rozell, Ph.D, Session Leader
Power of Attraction – Class 1

Drew: Welcome everybody; this is Drew Rozell, and this is the 1st class in the introduction to the power of attraction workshop. I want to welcome you all to the call. The idea behind this class is that we're going to help you attract more of what you want into your life, and not what you really don't want. This isn't a huge group, so I want to encourage everybody to speak up and participate. I want this to be informal and fun and I want to make sure you get what you want out of this class.

I'll give you some of my background real quickly. I have a background in social psychology; I went to Syracuse University. Social psych is the study of why people do what they do, and it's always been a real interest of mine. This had a lot to do with me being attracted to coaching and coaching being attractive to me. The more I got into coaching, the more I saw different kinds of clients – there were people who seemed to bring into their lives everything they wanted; money, large amounts of time, and seemed really happy. Then, there were the folks that seemed to be always struggling, who never had the relationships they wanted, and never seemed to be attracting the happiness they wanted. My curiosity, anyway, and through the power of observation, led me into this whole field of attraction. That's kind of the quick background of where I'm at with this. I've been working with this for a couple of years now, and I'm still learning. It's not the kind of thing you're going to master, but it's something that if you're aware of the principles, you can begin to incorporate them into your life. I think it's something that you continually grow with, that takes some practice, and it's not something that's every really mastered.

To get an idea of why you're here and what you want to get out of the class, if you could give me an idea of your interest in attraction – just jump right in.

Leah: I am a new coach; I go to Coach U, and I've always noticed the laws of attraction in my life, although I didn't really know that's what it was until recently, and I want to put that in my coaching.

Drew: What is it about attraction that interests you?

Leah: That it works with or without you; the understanding of how it works so you can better use it.

Drew: So that whether or not you're aware of it.

Leah: Exactly.

Drew: Can I ask you – how did you become exposed to the idea and the material?

Leah: Well, part of my spirituality has been that you can create what you want in your life; I've always gotten what I thought I wanted, and it was what I had created for myself. I had an interesting experience about 2 years ago and I was feeling really burnt out and needed a break. I went out and fell down and broke my ankle and was out of work for 2 months; I looked at that as that I got what I asked for. Part of that was to meet new people and have some questions answered for me, and that's what happened during that time. It started me off in a whole new direction. Then, when I came to Coach U, I was looking over the material and here it was. It got me very excited, very motivated, and I've done some stuff with Abraham Hicks.

Drew: You bring up a really interesting point, a provocative question to start the class with. I'm wondering, whether we know it or not, do we always get what we want? That's a question for anybody out there.

Karen: I do think we do; what I've been trying to find out is some of what you said today about the rules and how you start to implement them in your life. I'm a lawyer, and I'm anxious to use – I have a business called Possibilities Group and I'm anxious to have my business take off financially and have things happen that I want to happen. I have it in other areas of my life, but I want it in my business.

Drew: Do you think that what you've been asking for around your business – what do you think you've been asking for so far?

Karen: I think it's been growing a little; I've been asking that it grow and that I have customers that I like and have an income from it.

Drew: So have you been getting what you want?

Karen: Not to the extent that I want.

Drew: Do you think it would be – out of this class, is it one of the things you want to clarify and ask for what you really want?

Karen: I think so, and I think partly it's the rules, how you apply them on a more consistent basis to have them working in your life. I'd like them to work in a more predictable way.

Drew: All right. When you say ‘ in a predictable way', do they sometimes happen and sometimes not-so-good things happen and you don't know why?

Karen: I don't know how to make them happen on a more regular basis.

Drew: What I hope to offer in this class is that you'll get perspective on all the events that occur- certainly enough things happen in my life that I don't know why they happen. A lot of times it does take some time and perspective – sometimes I don't know if I'll ever understand why certain things happen, but it does give me a way of looking at it. In that way of looking at it, it always brings me back to center and gives me control of how I respond. It does give me the choice to how I'm going to respond to the events in my life.

Leah: I've been listening to this also, so I understand what you're saying.

Drew: And those are certainly materials that will come up in our discussion for sure. Anybody else? What's driving your interest in attraction?

Warren: I would say that I've been lucky enough to attract many of the things I want out of life, but after getting into these power of attraction ideals here, it might unlock or open up some opportunities for me. Like Leah said, to learn how to harness and use it.

Drew: Is there any specific area?

Warren: I'm sure relationship-wise, I could use some tweaking, but I'm not coming into this with any specific goals other than overall happiness.

Drew: Overall happiness is a nice segue – I think I brought this up in the introductory class, what's the goal of life. In it's simplest form, it's to be happy – to be as happy as what we can be. I know I try to orient around that. Before I go on, is there anything else you'd like to share or anything else you see as the goal of life?

Beth: I would just add ‘easy'.

Drew: And does easy fit with attraction?

Beth: Yeah.

Drew: Yeah, you bet. If I look at attraction, I want to be happy, and I want it to be easy, and I want it to be understandable – I want a system there. I'm lazy in the sense that I don't want to do anything I don't want to do, and I think most people are like that. If you look at most people's lives and they say what they want, the goals they want to achieve – I see people struggle to do certain things because they think they have to do them to get what they want, but they really don't want to do them. We may think we should do something else, but we really only do what we want to do. I think the coolest thing about attraction is ease – it's designed around being easy. You eliminate resistance and you get exactly what you want. To me, that sounds like the most attractive thing in the world. Why wouldn't you orient your life around those principles?

XXX: Yahoo!

Drew: I don't know if anybody's ever had a discussion about attraction with somebody who isn't really familiar with the concept. I know that when I do it with some members of my family, some of them completely get it – they're on board, they're with the ease and with getting what they want. Then, I have other members of my family who say it just doesn't sound right, it's just too easy, and life isn't supposed to be that easy, is it? That's the way things work; you don't get what you want without working hard or suffering; there's got to be some pain involved. There are kind of 2 camps, maybe there are 3 – the people that are in between. Has anybody else seen that as well?

Leah: Yeah, certainly; I come in contact with that. I have a client who doesn't believe anything should be easy.

Drew: And what we're talking about here with attraction, bottom line, is that it's a belief. It's just like that belief that you have to work hard, to struggle, and that things can't be easy. It's really about our perspective – about how we look at life as a whole, where the universe is a nice place. On the other hand, there are those that think the universe isn't such a nice place, that it's dangerous, and you have to watch out. Getting what you want is not easy; it's a struggle, it's a fight. We just have to be in tune with what we want and be very clear in what we're asking for.

So, easy is another big part of attraction. The things that got me into attraction were that it was easy, that it was a way for me to get what I wanted, that I didn't have to struggle any more, or that I didn't have to chase anymore – that I didn't have to spend time going from one crisis to the next. Also, a big one for me was that I didn't have to worry anymore. It's not easy because some of those beliefs are so ingrained in us that they become part of us; they're hard for us to let go. One of the first steps in the attraction process is being open to the idea that these things don't have to be part of your life; maybe it's just a choice.

So, what's the law of attraction? Is that what you're here to find out? Any ideas on what the law of attraction is?

Leah: That like attracts like.

Drew: Yeah, that like attracts like. That which is like unto itself is drawn. Where we're starting with the law of attraction – the more I get into this, the more I can't help but look for the law of attraction everywhere. Whatever is similar, things that are similar are drawn together. We begin to talk about this in the law of attraction from both our thoughts – positive thoughts attract more positive thoughts; negative thoughts attract more negative thoughts; joy attracts more joy. And we get into the emotional level as well; wherever we are and whatever we bring into ourselves is reflected in the universe. I've brought this up before in the intro class, but you can certainly see that in the language; whether or not people are really aware of attraction or the law of attraction – most people haven't heard of it. It's growing in popularity, but I would say about 5 percent of the folks would have any understanding of it, but if you look at the language people use, I think there's a recognition or understanding between most people of this sort of phenomenon. You hear phrases like ‘birds of a feather flock together' or ‘you reap what you sow'.

I hear people talking about how things just came together; someone was talking to me about how she and her husband just bought an apartment building. They'd been talking about it for about 3 weeks, that they wanted to do it, and things just came together. Or, on the other side, when people talk about how nothing seems to be going their way, or how things go from bad to worse. I think there's a lot of recognition here; be aware of that. Be aware of people talk about phenomenon, about the way things occur, because I think they're talking about attraction, whether or not they realize it.

So, the law of attraction is like attracts like. We're applying it to our thoughts, to our emotions and our desires – the feelings we have behind those thoughts. Can someone give me examples of some emotions?

XXX: Joy.

XXX: Fear.

Drew: Happiness. Anything else?

XXX: Excitement.

XXX: Jealousy.

Drew: That's a good one.

XXX: Love.

Drew: Frustration, anger…..

XXX: Guilt.

Drew: Malaise or boredom – we could go on for a while about different emotions we have, as humans. We can come up with all sorts of names for those emotions. Right in the beginning, the law of attraction – and this comes from some of the Abraham Hicks work – there are only 2 emotions. One of those feels good and one of those feels bad. Does everybody understand that? Everybody with me on that?

XXX: Yeah (multiple voices)

Drew: All right. And our job is to distinguish between them and to have the awareness within ourselves of what feels good and what does not feel good. Often, we'll have a feeling and we'll associate it with frustration, and we can come up with all sorts of reasons behind why we feel that way, and almost rationalize it. Whatever you experience, whatever you're thinking about, does it make you feel good or make you feel bad? I would say in the attraction process, your emotions are your navigators; they're to tell us where to go in life. Men aren't so concerned with emotions; they don't want to be – they'd rather be in touch with the logical side, but it's true that we all still feel. There's a reason it's there. Scientists will tell you that the theory behind emotion is something to help you learn. If you have an experience, you pair it with an emotion so the next time you have an experience, that emotion comes up so you know how to respond to that. It's something to really, really, really pay attention to. When you feel good, that's the signal that you need to keep heading in that direction. When you don't feel so good, that's the signal that you might want to head someplace else.

Our thoughts, with these feelings behind them, are going to have powerful emotions. Any thought you have with powerful emotion behind it, in the attraction jargon, we're calling it a vibration. Any thought that you have with powerful emotion behind it, that's what we're calling a vibration. I can't think of a better word. The idea is that you're sending out vibrations, and the idea behind attraction is that those little energy packets you're sending out hit the universe come reflected right back to us. If we're sending out positive vibrations, we're going to get more positive vibrations. If we send out negative vibrations, we're going to get negative vibrations back. We're going to get more of what we put out, of what we feel. Whatever we offer to the universe, that's what get reflected back to us. The idea of vibrations is the foundation to the whole law of attraction. Is that clear? Do you have questions or comments?

How does that sound when we talk about vibrations? Does that sound a little funky? Or, is it easy to accept?

XXX: It's easy to accept; I think it's like a vibe.

Drew: Yeah, and we use that word all the time. It's that sense we get about someone, even though we can't put language to it.

Sarah: I think where it gets confusing is when we think the feeling we get from a vibration is what we think we should do.

Drew: Can you tell me a bit more about that or share an example?

Sarah: Sure. I want to grow my business, and I get a good feeling about it, but I go to work every morning. I get confused between holding on to my emotions and going with my vibrations. Does that make sense?

Drew: I'm not quite all the way with you.

Sarah: I want to have a business, but the practical side says I need to go to work . I get confused between my feelings and what is a real vibration.

Drew: Well, if we look at what you want – to start to derive some income from the Possibilities Group – what is your feeling around that?

Sarah: It's very positive when I work with it.

Drew: Do you know that can happen?

Sarah: Yes, but I get very concerned financially.

Drew: So it sounds like you're wondering how that will happen, or if it can happen.

Sarah: Yes.

Drew: What the vibration is there that we'd look at is how you really feel about that? I can hear that you think it's a great idea, but what's the feeling associated with it deep down. One of the things I really want from you in this class is to make sure you're really clear on the vibration that you're putting out there towards the Possibilities Group and make sure that it's a positive one. Right now, I'm not sure that it's totally positive as you think.

Sarah: No.

Drew: So it's going to be that feeling associated with whatever it is that you want; we're probably going to have to tweak that feeling behind it.

Sarah: I guess where I get confused is what we're supposed to be doing while we're waiting for those vibrations to take hold.

Drew: Okay, good question. Let me put it out to the group first. If there is something you want – no matter what it is – how do you change that? What do you have to do in the meantime?

XXX: I would work on my vibrations, totally unrelated to whatever I want. For instance, I just love the feeling of brand new socks on my feet, so I just work on those vibrations. Or, I walk the dog or whatever – I wouldn't try to hold my vibrations around a particular thing.

Drew: So you would just put yourself in a place that feels good?

XXX: Yeah.

Drew: Okay; anybody else?

Leah: I'm actually going through a similar thing, making a transition from another business to coaching. Now, I feel like I'm sabotaging myself around making money from coaching because I don't need it. I'm trying to get clear in my mind about wanting to and deserving to make money as a coach. I think part of the process is to talk to yourself about it and get clear on any issues you might have about htat.

Drew: Is there any particular clarity you think you need right now?

Leah: There certainly is clarity I need, by all means, and I've been working on it. Mostly just allowing myself because I'm still in the learning process – it's kind of like the fact that you have to have the piece of paper in your hand before you can do something, but part of me is already helping people and being a coach. I'm successful; I'm just not getting paid.

Drew: So you're coming up against a belief there?

Leah: Yes.

Drew: All right; so coming back to where Sarah was, what to do in the meantime, I'm going to definitely go right in the middle. We think very linear thoughts as humans; ‘In order for my business to grow, I have to do this…' While that would be an effective way to do it, if you can do it is the real question. Are you truly able to put out a positive vibration around that or it is because you've associated that belief behind what you want right to something that life won't allow. It's really to put your attention on anything you can find that's good; do whatever you need to do to make yourself feel good. That's what you can do to raise your vibrations. Your job is to feel good; it doesn't matter how you do that, you just need to feel good. Attraction is easy; it's not about overcoming anything or replacing negative thoughts, it's just about having positive emotions. All you need to do – if you want to work on that vibration – is do the things that make you feel good. How does that sound?

Sarah: That's what I've been trying to do, actually; that's what I've been working on but I think the circumstances around that are difficult. Sometimes it just scares me to stay in that place.

Drew: And what scares you about it?

Sarah: When different things that happen that don't feel good.

Drew: And you feel like you have to address that?

Sarah: Yeah, and my body is feeling that I need to go and work as an attorney, and then all those thoughts come back into my head. But, I've been really concentrating at looking for the good things, but my natural inclination is to look for the other.

Drew: Are you thinking, ‘How is putting on my favorite socks going to attract business to me?'

Sarah: Yeah.

Drew: And to actually put that into practice is a very challenging thing to do, otherwise, everybody would do it. I think it comes down to fate. The universe is a place that wants nothing but good things for you.

Sarah: But is it a good place if you don't get a job? If you follow what feels good, should you get job?

Drew: Meaning?

Sarah: Meaning that, your sense of responsibility tells you one thing but your inner emotions tell you something else. There's a conflict there between responsibility and seeing this through – continuing to put your socks on and do the things in front of you.

Drew: And when you say responsibility, do you mean to yourself or to the world at large – ?

Sarah: To your family and your life.

Drew: I think that's a huge issue in this whole discussion; does anybody want to comment on that?

Leah: I think when the idea of responsibility comes into play, I always get caught up in the idea that there's a lot of ‘shoulds' or ‘have tos' in that. If you're not surrendering to the idea of attraction, things will come in due time, and I think that thought throws your vibrations off course.

Drew: I like that surrendering… that phrase. The whole idea of responsibility, Sarah, how does that make you feel?

Sarah: Heavy.

Drew: Yeah; most of the people I coach and certainly in my own life, responsibility isn't something that makes us feel very good. That responsibility is almost what separates us from ourselves and what we really want; it's the sense of obligation that we have to do all these other things – like, you have to be responsible and get a job; there's a lot of that connection. What we're looking at with attraction is turning a lot of that on its ear. What's really the truth here? What's really going on? We've been taught that we need to be responsible, but when we look at that – if we can look at that – does that make us feel good, does that make us contribute more to the world? That's always going to be the big challenge. I've been working with attraction for a couple years, and that's the one I come up against all the time too. Can I really do what makes me feel good? Who am I to do that? Shouldn't I be more responsible? I watch my neighbors driving off toe work for 40, 50, 60 hours a week – that is the big challenge. It's not easy; it's not always easy doing that. I think that is something that you have to develop that relationship with; you have to trust it, and over time, you'll start to see the benefits – you'll see that you attract something different. I think that's going to be a big issue. There's a heavy vibration associated with responsibility and that can bring back some heavy stuff. Okay?

Sarah; Yeah.

Drew: But keep bringing that up; I'm sure it will come up again. The last thing I want to talk about today, is still related to vibrations. When you're having a positive vibration, when you feel really good and you know you're emanating good stuff to the universe, what does that feel like within your body? If you can, give me an example of when that happens, and what that feels like. I'll start. Being a music fan, there are certain songs that when they come on, they just stop me in my tracks and I just get a shiver. Whenever I listen to John Lennon, "Watching the Wheels", it happens every time. It's a really cool feeling – like a warm shower. I can actually feel that my vibration has changed; I can feel that. That's a positive vibe for me. Why this is important is that once you can identify that physiological response that you have, the quicker you can get into that place. Just talking to you about it, I'm able to re-create that within my body. You can change what you're putting out to the universe very quickly, and since vibrations are at the root of attraction, it's important for you to know what that feels like so you can re-create it. Before we go, does anybody have one they're willing to share?

Deb: I do. It's that very second, that instant, that fish hits my line and I know I've got one on there.

Drew: Deb is quite a fisher-person, I guess!

Deb: And it feels like I've turned into one big Fizzy – do you know those? They were kind of like Alka-Seltzers but they were candy and you put them on your tongue. I generally feel like one big Fizzy and I feel like I'm going to pee my pants.

Drew: (laugh) In just a general way like that, huh? From catching a fish – does that go throughout your whole body?

Deb: Yes, it does.

Drew: No wonder you like fishing so much. Can you get that feeling anywhere else or can you recreate it, Deb?

Deb: Yeah; usually I can get it just by thinking about the image of catching a fish. You know what's most helpful when I do that – I take the scenario and create it in my head; what takes me to the feeling fastest is if I quit the image before I actually see the fish. It's that little bit of mystery there.

Drew: And before it comes out of the water, you don't know how big it is.

Deb: Yeah, and I always stop just before it comes out of the water.

Drew: And you can do this in about a minute?

Deb: Yeah, probably.

Drew: And you can certainly hear the excitement in your voice when you talk about it. Thanks for sharing that, Deb. The homework is for everybody to identify what it feels like within your body and if you can come up with that mental picture of some scenario – that's what you need to get in touch with. That's the picture you need, and that's the place you need to go to on a regular basis. What I'm going to ask you to do here is to start to go to the place and be able to call forth that emotion on a regular basis. That is going to determine whatever you want, whatever's out there that you really desire, your work is going to be to feel good. Having that picture to help you flip on that switch is going to be really important. If you're in a place that's negative, we all know what happens – those negative thoughts really take hold and get bigger. Be able to identify what makes you feel good and start to get in the habit of getting into that place regularly.

So, the homework is to make sure you identify that physiological place; if you get stuck, you have my email, you have my phone number – contact me anytime. To start off, that's going to be the foundation – create the image, get familiar with that response in your body. Okay?

XXX: Okay (multiple voices)

Drew: Does anybody have any questions? That's what I'm asking of you this week.

Warren: I have a question. As you were going through that description, it occurred to me that I get numerous types of feelings. I also share the tingling sensation when I hear a certain song come on, or if I get a base hit during a softball game, I get a different feeling.

Drew: Do you know what the difference is? What I would do – they both sound like really good feelings, and you could go with either one. What I would be curious about is how are they the same and how are they different. I don't know what the difference is yet, but I'd want to know if there's something central to both of those things – there's something to be learned there.

Warren: I guess that's my homework assignment!

Deb: I've created 3 or 4 scenes and they do have different feelings. It's so easy to do and so valuable to have more than one.

Drew: Yeah – create a lot of them that you can put in your pocket so you can pull them out at any time. That's where we'll start – all right, folks? Again, if you need anything, contact me at anytime. Otherwise, we'll hook up next week.