Power of Attraction 2

Drew Rozell, Ph.D, Session Leader
Power of Attraction – Class 2

Drew: So, welcome to attraction class #2 – it's me, Drew. Where to begin? Why don't we just review that basic tenet of attraction? What's that law again?

XXX: Like attracts like.

Drew: Yeah, you get what you feel. We kind of left off last time talking about what good vibrations feel like within your body. Did anybody play with that? Were you able to identify what a good vibration felt like within your body?

Leah: I actually paid attention to that this weekend.

Drew: What'd you notice?

Leah: Well, good vibrations in my body feel like an expanding of my energy – I feel like my physical being takes up more space. It's freeing, but it also feels like I can take in more things.

Drew: How do you know when that happens?

Leah: Well, besides the fact that I was paying attention to it, I was having a situation where I was struggling with something. I wanted something to happen and I was focusing on it too much, and I decided to release that. When I did that, and focused on something else, I felt like my energy expanded.

Drew: Cool! What did that feel like?

Leah: It was mostly in the center of my being, kind of radiating out. It was also in the perimeter of my body as well.

Drew: So, in the center of your body. I know that mine starts in the back of my head and goes up and down my spine. I've heard other people say that they feel it in their heart, and I've heard still others say that it kind of radiates around their body. The other ways that I've heard it described were that they could feel their skin tingle – anybody else? Any other examples of what it feels like?

XXX: It feels releasing, like you're in a better space and you can breathe easier.

Drew: So again, would that come back to the chest area?

XXX: Yeah, from the stomach up through the chest.

Drew: It's going to be important to identify what this feels like for you; that's going to be the critical part of whether you can get back to this place, and whether you can switch that on and off. Are you able to do that? Can you recreate that feeling you have when you're vibrating positively?

Deb: Most of the time I can recreate the feeling.

Drew: And do you do that – what makes you do that? That you're not in a good place and make a conscious decision to feel good?

Deb: It's usually not because I'm not in a good place; it's more often that something has come up that I want really badly and I want to vibrate around it.

Drew: So it's not about wanting something really badly, but about radiating energy around that.

Deb: Well, while I'm thinking about it, I want to raise my vibrations around it. I've been raising my vibrations all day because if the weather gets up to 80 like they say, those fish are going to be popping up.

Drew: Oh, you're gone! (laugh) There are a couple of ways you raise your vibrations; one is that you make a conscious decision, starting that morning, to think about how you can feel good and start your day off right. The other way is when you don't feel so good; like attracts like, and when you get into bad feelings, at some point you've got to some those feelings in their tracks or they'll get really overwhelming. When you're putting out negative feelings, be able to be aware of that. It's amazing to me that a lot of folks just aren't – you can almost stand outside them and watch what they pull in; more and more stuff to make them feel bad or stressed. It's important to know how you feel, and to be able to consciously make that decision to stop those negative vibrations. Then, I always want to start replacing them with good vibrations.

XXX: I totally get that; if you've got negative stuff going on, it can really change around how you and your body feel. What I have trouble doing is recognizing when I'm having negative feelings; eventually I will, but I think I prolong them a little longer than I could. Could you give me some tips about checking in with myself?

Drew: Well I probably prolong mine as well; I don't get it on the first one. Part of me likes to feel bad; it's something that I'm used to. It's still ingrained in my personality deeply enough that I don't catch it right away. That's why I say it's something that you never really master, but you have an ongoing relationship with. I don't think I ever get it on the first one.

XXX: I noticed I did that this morning. I caught myself with negative stuff, and then I looked to see how long I'd been doing it, and realized I had to go back about 4 or 5 thoughts before I found a positive one. I just wondered if there are tricks or techniques out there to catch it faster. Are they asking themselves constantly how they feel?

Drew: I think they are; what we're talking about, to a degree, is awareness. If you go up and explain it to most people, they'll think it makes sense, but it's really an awareness. Perhaps, another difference would be that, maybe someone who's just getting into this would be more reactive – they would wait until something was bad before they try to vibrate positive thoughts, rather than just setting aside some time to get into a positive mood. It probably comes from that effort on the front end to get the positive vibration started and immunize you a bit from those negative thoughts later on. Does anybody start their day with a routine that makes them feel good?

Sarah: I do; I meditate in the morning before I get out of bed.

Drew: What do you do, if I might ask?

Sarah: Actually, I use my fingers to go through and keep myself grounded until I have a breakthrough.

Drew: And what's a breakthrough.

Sarah: It's getting the negative jargon out of my head; when I get out of bed, I have a clearer space in my head.

Drew: Does it work?

Sarah: Yeah, some days it works better than others, but I try to be real faithful to it.

Drew: Thanks for sharing that; I've noticed that if I start my day with something that makes me feel good – for me it's important how I start my day; it really sets the tone and carries throughout the day for me. For me, personally, it's really important in determining what I'm going to get for the day.

Leah: I do the same thing. I went and purchased a Zen alarm clock so I could get woken up in a more gentle way. I get woken up by a regular alarm clock, I get scared out of bed and then I'm a wreck all day.

Drew: I'm fortunate where I don't have to set them, but they are so – I can't imagine waking up to some of those things. They make me cringe!

Leah: Yeah, it scares me out of bed, first thing.

XXX: I just wanted to add something to what you said earlier; in the Abraham Hicks stuff, they talk about stopping at certain points of the day and setting your intention for what you want during that part of the day. Then, that carries over into your week, your month, and your year. I think that's also a good way to keep your awareness of where you're at.

Drew: Thank you for that; it's a good suggestion. First of all, it's not a passive process – some people think you can just sit in your room and everything will come to you, but it's really a very active process about what you're thinking throughout the day and what you're doing. You have to have a present focus all the time; you have to be checking in with yourself as well. In all of this, feeling good is a habit, it's just a habit. We've gotten in the habit of negative thoughts, and that's all they are. If we can be more present into what we are doing and visualize or associate that with good feelings at any given moment, we're changing the habit and changing our vibrations over time. If you can keep working on it, over time that adds up to a lot of good feeling, and that's certainly a positive vibration. How is everyone doing out there?

XXX: I'm absorbing. It's nice to know everybody has the same problem I do – chasing out negative thoughts in the morning.

Drew: Can I ask you about it?

XXX: Yeah, when I get going in the negative direction, I try to develop a way to get my vibrations back into a good direction. I usually say to myself, ‘Bigger problems have been solved'. It's a way of putting things into perspective. For me, that's helped me get going back in the right direction.

Drew: And just in general, how much of the problems that we do have – how much of that do we have to solve?

Deb: before that, how much of our problems are really real, that's my thing. You know, I could answer that question this morning, ‘None of them have to be solved'. I sometimes get in the big, ‘What if – ?' junkyard.

Drew: Yeah! Sometimes it's so easy to spot in other people, but yet, like anything else, we don't see ourselves so clearly. If you do have someone close to you, talk to them about attraction – talk to them about how you want to be putting out more positive vibrations, and have them point that out to you. I know that works for me. I'm embarrassed to tell you that I had a nice weekend; I went away for the weekend and I pulled in the driveway and saw all the stuff on my lawn that I needed to rake from when the snow melted. I could watch and see how from one thing to the next how these problems got so big. I finally just had to say, ‘Is any of this really a problem? Do I have to solve any of this right now?' We can blow things up in our mind and make things so big. Sometimes, we just have to get some perspective on that and make ourselves happy.

When situations are there in front of us, I don't know the answer to this question but I'm curious – how much of the actual solving do we have to do?

Karen: I think that's part of the problem we get into. If we're an action person, we have to be responsible. I don't have an answer, but that's certainly one of my big questions.

Drew: Yeah; you brought up a bunch of things around responsibility and action. Let's start with action first; how much action does attraction require?

XXX: It requires just enough.

Drew: Meaning?

XXX: I don't know; just enough. That's my question – what is just enough?

Drew: Well, here's what I notice, what I observe. People will see there's a problem or something isn't right or the way they want it to be. They feel like they have to solve it and immediately with that solving – a lot of times when people feel like they have to solve what's not right, they feel like they have to do so and they feel a lot of pressure. That doesn't feel good. Does that – from an attraction standpoint – does that help?

XXX: No.

Drew: No, I wouldn't think so. Does it have to be that way?

Deb: I'd like to distinguish between action and folly because I think, like Doug, just enough action is sometimes necessary. But, I don't think that action towards folly is necessary at all. If I have a problem with a bunch of folks, an action towards solving it might be to get them all on the line so we can talk about it. But, an action like going fishing, I do need to do to get out of whatever funk I am in.

Drew: I think that's exactly what attraction would say. If there's a problem – let's say it's action that doesn't make you feel good – attraction is saying you need to put your energy towards something positive. If you're going to act, it's got to be action that does make you feel good. For some people, I think that's where the big disconnect comes in – that you have to do things you really, really don't want to do. That's not what attraction is saying. Throw me some thoughts on that.

Sarah: I think what happens is that we have a preconceived idea of how we have to solve problems, and we go to that, rather than what you're saying – opening up to possible solutions and look at it from there, and look back and see how much action is actually necessary.

Drew: Yeah, we have a preconception of how things work. We have this linear model in our head, and attraction is not that. If you're emanating how you're feeling in all directions, that's how things are coming to you – not in a straight line. The reason they call it a law and it is a law of the universe, it's that without law -if the universe didn't have these rules about how things happen, it would just be random. There would be no way to evolve. When we're talking about the law of attraction, the idea is that this is something that's universal, it's somethi8ng that's taking place all the time, whether we're aware of it or not. It's something that's useable, it's replicable – all those are qualities of the law. I think it's something that most people, while they may have some sort of awareness in it, they don't have that understanding. Attraction takes some space to think that you can solve problems in your life by not focusing on the problem, and that's not the way we're taught at all. Does anyone have examples of that?

Leah: I think that I've learned that sometimes you don't really need to do anything for a problem; it's really that your mind is creating it to be more than it is and if you just let it sit, it will resolve itself. I used to spend a lot of time trying to force things, and that was necessarily the best thing to do. Then, rather than struggle with something, I would just think, ‘Whatever's going to happen is going to happen', and just let it go.

Drew: That's the phrase that pops into my mind because what you're really letting go of are all the feelings of anxiousness and worry. Most of the time, what shows up for me after that is pretty remarkable. When I stop worrying, there's nothing to worry about. In fact, most of the time, it completely reverses itself. Just from the attraction perspective, when you've felt like you've attracted something, what do you think is the coolest thing you've attracted? Are you going to make me share?

Well, I'm probably – along with my wonderful girlfriend, I'm probably sitting in the coolest thing that I've attracted. When I can see the walls of the house I'm living in, I feel like I've attracted that. It was such a simple process to go from wanting the house – with this house, I noticed that I never asked the question, ‘How?' I just wanted it, and it happened. That's when I really knew there was something behind attraction. If I had asked ‘how', I never would've gotten here. It's amazing to look at the chain of events – and believe me, there were plenty of people telling me how hard it was going to be to get the house I wanted, the loan I wanted, and so on. By just putting it out there – this was the 4th house I looked at, and I spent about 2 hours looking at houses. It was better than I could've expected or imagined; everything was seamless, and I've been here a year this week. It was total attraction – this house found me as much as I found it. I'm curious to hear what people attract, when you think that things come together in a magical way.

Deb: Well, we could talk about my car story. (laugh)

Drew: Yes, Deb, tell the story – please!

Deb: Well, it's more of a campfire story. I'll try to be brief. Basically I had a vehicle that was about 10 years old and it was starting to become a liability, but the last thing I wanted was car payments. I wasn't conscious of the law of attraction, but as I look back on it, I know that's what it was. I was trying to make the decision and was just discussing this with everybody – how I wanted a reliable vehicle with no car payments. Lo and behold, I went on a fishing trip to Canada, and I managed to drive my vehicle in a beaver pond by accident, blew out the engine, came home, and the insurance agent said they would totally cover it. I got a brand new engine, a brand new transmission, and totally cleaned out interior and the insurance paid for it. I went on to drive the car for another 4 years, so I got what I wanted – a reliable vehicle and no car payments.

Drew: What do you think the key to that story is? Why did that happen?

Deb: Well, I think I attracted it by conversations with other people where I said, ‘You know what I really want?' and I was having an absolutely laugh on this trip, in spite of the fact that I'd had this accident in Canada. Even when I got home and thought I was looking at horrible car payments – I couldn't even be depressed about that because the fishing trip was so wonderful!

Drew: That's what I heard, Deb. Thanks for sharing that. You got someplace where you focused on what you wanted, and you weren't in the place where you were being negative – we know what would've happened in that case. If you have all those positive emotions behind you, that's the magic formula. Ask for what you want, and feel good about it. That was certainly true for this house. I said I wanted a place that would fit my life, and this house appeared. I just always felt good about that; those are the keys to attraction. It never ceases to amaze me – these things aren't coincidences. You can look at them that way, but if you do believe there's some order, some rule, or some law to the universe, there's something behind how that happens and we're all going to benefit from it.

I'm going to take the Abraham Hicks model of the 3 steps involved in the attraction process; I think they're the broadest perspective of attraction. Here are the 3 things to keep in mind to attract what we want:

1 – ask for what we want. You have to ask clearly, and you have to ask for what you want, versus what you don't want to happen. You need to put it out there; ask clearly, and ask powerfully. That's step 1. Put it out to the universe with positive emotion behind it.

2 – it's given. You just ask for what you want. I've just asked for that, and the universe is extending that to me – I need no longer worry about that; it's on the way. Everybody clear on that part? You ask and it's given.

3 – allow that. It's the law of allowing; we ask in step 1, it's given in step 2, and we allow what we want to come to us. You have to be a vibrational match for whatever you're asking for. If you want a reliable vehicle with no car payments and that would make you feel really good, then you need to know that's on the way and feel really good about it. If that's not a vibrational match, it won't happen.

If you want to attract prosperity, you can't be worried about money – you can't feel poor. If you want to attract great health, you can't be worried about your health. You know how you tune in a radio to a frequency? Well, we have to tune into the frequency of what we're asking for. What you think, what you focus on, your vibrational frequency – they all have to be in line. As it turns out, in the attraction process, I think most of us can easily ask for what we want, then the universe is giving it to us, and step 3 is the most difficult part of the process. That's where we fall down and that's where we have to focus the most energy. Everybody understand about the 3 steps? Any questions or comments before we get to the next part?

XXX: So would that be like you were asking for a relationship; you put out the kind of person you want, and they appear. If you're allowing, you just accept it as it is and if you're not, that's the questioning of it.

Drew: In this sense, if you've attracted it and it's there, it's there. If you're asking for someone who is physically compatible, likes to do the same things, prosperous, great sense of humor – if you believe that's possible, that person is going to show up in your life. Most people think that seems too good to be true; they don't know if that person exists. If the vibrations behind what they're asking for aren't a match, it won't happen.

XXX: If you have it already, it's something else? I got it.

Drew: This brings us to the final point we'll talk about today. In asking for what you want, whatever it is, the important thing to look at and the thing you have to become aware of is what is your dominant thought about that subject. An easy example would be that you want to attract more money. The 1st thing to think about here is that a lot of people think they can fool themselves into feeling good about what they want, and there's an excellent chance that they probably don't. Your vibrations are a product of your experience, they're a habit that you have. My associations with money were not good; that's what I learned. Having money was not a good thing – you had money and someone else didn't. I came to associate money with I didn't deserve it. For me to feel good about money was a difficult thing to do. What we're looking at here is what we call the dominant thought – the one I attracted was that I don't deserve money. I really couldn't change that overnight, because my dominant thought about that subject was negative. One of the key pieces to attraction is to become aware of what your dominant thought is; if it's negative, you have to know that's where you can't put your attention. In other words, if I wanted to attract money and I want that, but my dominant thought is negative, the best thing I can do is ask for it and put my attention elsewhere to something that makes me feel good. Let me just check in with everybody; does everybody get that?

XXX: I have a question. Changing your thoughts about money, what did you do? Did you say to yourself that you needed to change your thoughts around money.

Drew: See, I couldn't do that. If you look at a lot of self-help stuff out there, that's the angle they take. I think there's a limited success rate with that because my dominant thought with money was that it was something I don't deserve. I learned that as a kid and it's reinforced in my belief. Any positive thought is competing against 25 years of belief, and those beliefs are stronger. I could put a happy face on it, but what we're really looking at here is what is the dominant thought that's really there. You can't fool the universe in that way. It wasn't until I could stop worrying about money completely – that's what I was doing. When I no longer put my attention on money, that's when I started attracting it. I didn't try to solve that problem anymore because it was solved. Any time it came up – when a bill came in the mail for example – I just stopped myself and said that I was no longer worrying about money and put my attention somewhere else. I was getting out of my own way and allowing it to come in. is that clear to everyone?

XXX: Silence is a yes.

XXX: Yes.

XXX: Yes.

Drew: That's a real key point in this; we're not going to try and change negative associations or solve anything in that way – it's just directing your energy to that which is positive. We're not going to try to deactivate negative thoughts. For your homework, when things do come up and you feel like you have to solve a problem, or something's not making you feel so good, ask yourself that questions – what is your dominant thought about that? Are you a vibrational mass for what you're looking for? Bring that back here and we'll see what we've got. Okay, folks? We'll fire it up next week. Have a great week!