Power of Attraction 4

Drew Rozell, Ph.D, Session Leader
Power of Attraction – Class 4

Drew: Welcome to class 4 in the power of attraction. This is our last class; it's gone quickly. Let's see, last time we talked about choosing the truth or choosing to feel good. Everybody remember that?

XXX: Yes (multiple voices)

Drew: Did this come up for anybody during the week? I think this is one of the more powerful concepts. When I talk to anybody around the topic of attraction, this is where they have the most difficulty because people are always choosing ‘truth' over feeling good.

Warren: I think the question is what really is the truth. Are you saying the truth is always subjective?

Drew: I think so, yeah.

Warren: Then we can always create the truth to be what we want.

Drew: I think you said it well, Warren. It's all about you being the deliberate creator of your experience. We didn't like ‘responsibility', and we came up with the word ‘source' – you get to choose what your vibration will be. We're always in that place of choice, and in that place, we create our reality. That's the way I look at it. What do you think about that idea?

Warren: I have a hard time getting that idea that truth is perceived, that truth can be 2 different things to 2 different people – is that what you're saying?

Drew: Can it be?

Warren: Yeah, I think so.

Drew: So then there probably isn't an objective truth.

XXX: Yeah, it's mine; it's always right!

Drew: And you get to choose what the truth is for you – that's the point. You know there are 2 kinds of people; one who goes around worrying about catching a cold all the time, and the other person who doesn't even think about it. There's all the same stuff going on out there, but how we perceive those events as affecting us is different from every individual. Do you choose to feel good or do you choose the truth? Out of belief, a lot of times, people choose the truth. If you get so caught up in what is right now, then all you can attract is what is. Anybody whoever created anything – at one point, the Empire State Building wasn't a reality; it wasn't there, but it became created because people focused on what could be, rather than what was.

Whatever you feel, your vibration is your vibration; that's going to determine a big part of what you're going to get. What happens when your vibration is negative? We don't always feel positive; I don't. I know that when I'm not feeling positive, it's only causing me to attract more bad stuff – stuff we don't want. What do we do when we get in those places?

Deb: Buy socks. It's just one of those simple things that doesn't cost a lot of money. One of the things I really love is putting on brand new socks.

Drew: Do you just get one pair?

Deb: Not always.

Drew: You go to do something very simple that makes you feel good.

Deb: Yeah.

Drew: I like that; it's quirky in a Deb sort of way .

Deb: It's easy, it doesn't take long to accomplish, and it feels very, very good. It's usually extremely colorful and it makes me feel abundant and wealthy.

Drew: Do you do this when you need to change your mood?

Deb: Sometimes! I just buy socks.

Drew: There you go, folks! You can create a whole market around that. Thank you, Deb. What do other people do? How do you get out of a negative place? Or, don't you?

Doug: I have to do something different; anything different, and I guess that's what Deb does. Make a radical change in thinking and the problem goes away.

Drew: Do you just make a change or do you change to something that makes you feel good, Doug?

Doug: Sometimes, I do and sometimes not.

Drew: Do you change away from bad?

Doug: Yeah, the pattern has to be broken or you just get sucked into the negative. But, I don't do anything cool like buying socks! I like that. I might try that next time.

Drew: Some of the research I've done in the Abraham Hicks material, this is a big thing. We all get into places where we feel bad and one bad thought leads to another bad thought and another. All of a sudden, we've got bona fide problems on our hands. Abraham Hicks came up with ‘virtual reality', which is basically a visualization technique. It's about taking 30 seconds to take time out from reality and create a virtual scene that makes you feel good – that changes that underlying vibration you have. Mine would go something like this; I wake up with sunshine coming through the window. I'm at my cabin in the Adirondack mountains. I let the dogs out, and outside it's fall – it's about 55 degrees. The mist is rising off Lake Champlain and I take off on a path outside the back of the mountain. I take measures paces and I can feel the blood pumping and start to work up a sweat. In a few minutes, I get to the top and take that cool, fresh air in my lungs. I sit on a rock and look at the beautiful foliage, with the happy dogs and the green mountains. That takes about 30 seconds to do – where you create a visual scene that you can feel; I can feel it every time I create that. It automatically transports me to that place, and I change the vibration I have. You get in for 30 seconds, you feel good, and you get out. You're not trying to solve anything; you just go in, feel good, and get out.

The idea is to come up with your own scene, your own visual place that makes you feel really good. You can do it in the shower, or on a drive somewhere. Start to incorporate this and build up what you're doing here – you're making that your dominant vibration over time. You're building up the positive thoughts over time. The more you visit this sort of place, the more your dominant vibration becomes positive, and the better you feel. Create a scene with emotion, get in, and get out. Make sense?

XXX: Can you use more than one scene?

Drew: You can; I just tend to come back to that one because I really like that.

Deb: I use several different ones – I have about 3 or 4 – but I can't remember where I learned this, but to take the scene right to the peak of feeling and then get out. Like, one of my scenes is catching a fish; I take it to the point where I'm ready to get the fish in the water and I haven't seen it yet, and then I get out.

Drew: So you are really stimulated at that point?

Deb: Yeah, and I can feel the vibration throughout my body. It also helps me stay with the wonder of the unknown and mystery.

Drew: That's cool.

Deb: When I feel comfortable, I stay with how wonderful the unknown and mysteries are, and then I don't go to feeling bad as often.

Drew: It also falls in line with this whole idea of attraction to some degree; it's unknown and it's a mystery. We can see evidence in our lives, but to some degree it's always going to be a mystery. We don't know everything. The way you raise your vibration also brings that sense of mystery out.

Deb: And most of the time, for many folks, unknown and mystery is something to worry about. We're creating vibrations around stuff that's never going to happen.

Drew: I like that – I'm going to re-think another scene for myself and see if I can get one to the peak of excitement and get out. The important thing for everybody is that you do this and you're not trying to solve anything; it can be completely unrelated to where you at that moment. You can be worried about money and visualize fishing – it works.

Deb: But you don't have to take much time to do it – it literally is 30 seconds.

Drew: And the idea is to have that as part of a routine to build up those positive vibrations. Anybody have any questions about that before we move on?

The last thing that I talked about – oh, there's one more thing. When you feel bad, just like when we identify when you feel good, you want to know how it feels physiologically when you're in your body so you know how to recognize that feeling. Notice in your body when you feel bad and where you feel bad – my sister came up with this and I'd never tried it before. After an argument with my girlfriend, I had this feeling in my stomach that felt like a hot little ball and what my sister had suggested is that what you want to do is be able to identify where that negative feeling is – again, you want to visualize this getting out of your body. Visualize like a vacuum cleaner hose attaching to that part of your body and taking those feelings out of your body. In that moment, I stopped and tried that. It sounds really strange, but it works really, really well. I noticed that my stomach didn't feel so bad anymore, my posture changed, and suddenly there was no argument.

I bring this up because one of the challenges in attraction is how you get out of that place that doesn't feel good. Whatever you need to do to have those feelings not manifest themselves in your body – whether it's opening a window, attaching a vacuum cleaner hose, or whatever, give it a shot. Does that sound crazy?

Deb: Of course not. I've never – I've played with where it feels in my body before, but I've never played with vacuuming it out; it sounds delightful.

Drew: I never had either; it was the first time I tried it, and it was the first time I identified where those feelings were.

XXX: And the great thing about this is that it's an action; it's something you can do about it. It gives you something to do, rather than just mentally trying to remove it. That's great for those of us who are action-oriented.

Drew: I can tell you it felt great for me; I wasn't aware of how concentrated that was. I can feel the energy all concentrated in one spot. Anybody, out of curiosity, know where they store their negative energy?

Doug: I get it in my back and shoulders.

Drew: Do you know that because you have problems in those areas, or do you know that it's there?

Doug: Well, I have had problems in those areas, but I know that when I get worked up, the pain intensifies right there.

Drew: I think that's excellent that you know that. Anybody else?

Warren: I think it either occurs in the back of my head; I'll get sort of a headache. Instead of using the vacuum technique that you spoke of, I took a class on hypnosis and they taught us to think about a different part of your body. For example, if the pain was in my head, I would think about my leg or my arm. It worked well for me.

Drew: And if you look at that whole idea from an attraction model, if your head hurts and you keep thinking about that, the pain isn't likely to go away any time soon. I'll give you a quick example that happened to me. A couple of weeks ago I was pouring tea out of a kettle and the top fell off and I got a steam burn. I'd never had a burn like this before in my life, and I thought it would just go away but it's different with a steam burn. I had my hand in a bag of ice for about 4 or 5 hours, and it happened that my brother is a chiropractor. He gives me an adjustment, and when I focused on how good my back felt when he finished, my hand stopped hurting. I was just focusing on the pain and couldn't get away from it; when I got away from it and put my attention on it to something that felt good, before I knew it, my hand stopped hurting. I think there is something to paying attention to that kind of energy.

The last part of the course, the way I have it designed, is to talk about some of the conditions for attraction to flourish. What are some of the prerequisites we need here for attraction to flourish?

First is clarity. I think you need to be clear on what you ask for. I talk to a lot of people and one of the first questions I ask them is what do you really want. A lot of times, more often than not, people don't know. Why do you think that is that so many of us don't know what we want?

Sarah: I think a lot of people don't really spend time evaluating their perspectives or what they want.

Drew: So, is that about taking the time to do this?

Sarah: I think part of it is time and part is a mental decision to really sit down and think about it.

Drew: So maybe part of it is time, and part of it is that awareness that you do have the ability to create. That life is – maybe it's because people don't look at life as something they need to choose and create; that it's something that happens to them. So, why would you get to clear? If you're at the whimsy of the universe, it's not like you're creating it.

Doug: I think fear gets in the way of a lot of folks.

Drew: Tell me more, Doug.

Doug: Because they think, ‘What happens if I don't do that? I've failed again.'

Drew: I'll go with that; I've heard a lot of fear. Yeah, what happens if I really, really try for it and don't get it – then what? Then I've got nothing.

XXX: Also, the converse is true – what if I do get it?

Drew: Yeah! What would that mean for people? Why do you think that comes up?

XXX: Then there's more fear; what would I do with it? Or, I have to change my entire life and now I have to do something that I don't know what to do.

Drew: If I really want this and know I really want it, but it would be a problem if I get it because I'm not sure I deserve this.

XXX: That ties into a lot of people who are fearful of success or fearful around money – getting the money they want – because they're going to be ostracized by the group they currently are part of.

Drew: That something would change within the group?

XXX: Yeah, now you're one of those ‘rich people'.

Drew: Yeah – perfect segue. I think prerequisites, things that get in the way of attraction, and one thing on my list is belief. Beliefs get in the way of attraction – the things we grow up with, that we're taught, that we learn. The old cliché that money is the root of all evil – that's a belief. That belief is probably going to get in the way of you attracting money. What's behind everything that we get, especially the stuff that we don't want? The belief. Is it possible to give up beliefs?

Leah: I think it's possible.

Drew: Have you experimented with it at all?

Leah: Yeah, I have. I've done some coaching techniques – the NLPs – and also some acupuncture has worked.

Drew: Tell me about acupuncture and beliefs – I'm curious.

Leah: He originally started doing this to disassociate certain attachments to food items, but then he started working with it around certain beliefs that you hold, and usually a belief is rooted in something, some point in time where you develop that belief.

Drew: And you've created it – right?

Leah: Yeah, and if you can go back to the point of creation, you can disassociate that point of attachment to that belief. I did it with a couple things that worked pretty well.

Drew: Wow! Did you change it?

Leah: Yeah, permanently.

XXX: There's a similar technique in acupressure and you can do it to yourself. You do a series of tapping on your body – you state the belief you currently have now, and then you tap around the way you want to change it. I have 2 clients who are doing it now and are working with a professional; both of them are having some success. They're working with Carol Look, and she has a website www.carollook.com, where she takes you through the tapping technique.

Drew: That's great – associating beliefs. For me, when I think about beliefs and why it comes up for me on this list of prerequisites, when I hold a belief about something, it usually makes somebody wrong; there's usually a right and wrong in that belief. A lot of the energy – let's say I have a strong belief in politics, there's a right and a wrong, and I've noticed that the energy I put out is a defensive, or negative, energy and it puts me in the place where I don't feel that good.

When I talk to people about this one – giving up beliefs – I realize that's a couple steps out there, but it's something I want to plant the seeds for. Just be aware that a lot of the time, your beliefs aren't making you feel good. Related to beliefs – and this one is a big one in the prerequisite department – is avoid self-judgment. We're our toughest critics. We get the hamster going in the wheel of our brain, with one negative thought to the next. We compare ourselves to others in ways that make us feel good. Avoid self-judgment.

Next is the power of gratitude; focusing on what makes you feel good, what you are thankful for. In any given moment, we can choose to feel good or choose to feel bad. Focus on what you have and what you're thankful for. I think that's one of the essential feelings in attraction – if you can practice gratitude.

Be selfish. How to be selfish – how would that relate to attraction? How would that be something that needs to be in place for attraction to occur, or does it?

Leah: I think being selfish, in the way of taking care of yourself, and taking care of your needs to make sure they're all met, is fine. It's around the idea of Extreme Self-care; if you make yourself happy, you have more to give other people and good things can come to you.

Drew: Yeah; nobody else can do it for you, nobody else is going to make you feel good. You are the source; you have to come first. You have to make yourself happy – it's your responsibility. Why don't so many people do that? Why don't people put themselves first?

Warren: I don't think a lot of people realize they can make themselves happy.

Drew: Because it doesn't occur to them?

Warren: That and maybe they don't deserve to be happy, they think somebody else needs to make them happy, and so on. Maybe they have a belief that they're not supposed to be happy all the time.

Drew: I think there's a belief that it's bad or it's wrong to put myself in front of other people – that's bad. Being selfish or making yourself happy is what I'm really talking about here; making that a priority. It's certainly one of the more important things you can do in the attraction process.

Another one I have is avoid blame. Why would this be important?

XXX: Because you're removing your own responsibility from the situation.

Drew: Attraction is about you being the deliberate creator; about you being able to choose how you feel no matter how bad somebody treats you, no matter how bad the economy is – what determines how you feel is how you choose to respond to any of those events. Eliminate blame; you'll feel a lot better.

The idea around attraction – just kind of summing up – that your actions are irrelevant; what you do doesn't matter. It's how you feel. If you want something to do, your work is to feel good, your work is to feel good, and your work is to feel good. That's it. That's what I've got, folks. Anybody have any questions or anything?

Doug: If our work is to feel good, that's a pretty simple concept. Why is it so tough, Drew?

Drew: Do you think it's tough for a baby to feel good?

Doug: No.

Drew: So what happens between that time when someone's a baby and today?

XXX: Responsibility.

Doug: 45 years of conditioning.

Drew: Yeah, we're conditioned to be responsible. We just learn a lot of stuff in between there – how not to feel good, for example. It's not like we ever really learned how to feel good; attraction is more about un-learning rather than actual learning. What we've talked about for the past 4 weeks is really about tearing down those beliefs you formed since you were a baby, and how we each get closer to that place – the place that we started from. Beliefs are strong; beliefs are powerful. We get whatever we believe. Those beliefs become ingrained; they become the truth, and they're pretty stubborn. While it's a really simple concept – it makes intuitive sense – it is work and it's not always easy; it's not easy for everyone. There's a challenge in there. That's where I'm going to put my effort, my focus, and my attention – I'm going out to get some socks!

Deb: It's so easy to feel good with new socks!

Drew: It is, and I need 3 new pairs.

Sarah: it's not a Geiger counter of the tings that are going on around you, it's the feelings that are going on inside yourself.

Drew: Yes. Because some situations don't feel good – it didn't feel good when I burnt my hand. My job was to figure out how to feel good.

Sarah: In that situation?

Drew: In any given moment; that's the question to ask yourself. Your work is to change the vibration, to change how you feel in any given moment. If we do that, we have nothing to worry about in life – nothing. There is no worry. Are we all little attraction magnets now? Big attraction magnets!

I thank you all for being here for these 4 weeks; I greatly appreciated your time and your participation. They brought up some things for me and I appreciate that. Thanks, everybody!